Mother of the Transgender Bride

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[lexadlanod]

I hear harsh tone of speech from what you tell about your mother. I have had that kind of talking to me from what should have been confidential friends, and it was beginning to be too much before I discovered that there are other ways to talk and handle conflicts of emotion. Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best, you must value your integrity and continue that way, searching for love and affection (and maybe even work-surroundings) the places where people are accepting.

[AbstractAlice]

@lexadlanod Thank you so much for your comment. I'm sorry you had to endure a similar experience. I am definitely trying to surround myself with more posative things instead of fighting the negative all the time. It seems to be working pretty well =^_^=

[erinbluetee]

I have worked on my parents for over 10 years. The best they could do was meet my husband and I at a diner outside of town about once a year. I know they will always love me but cannot get over what other might think or do. I transitioned in 2001, surgery 2003, married in 2005. I really don't think I could have been a better example, but some just can't or won't get over it!

[AbstractAlice]

@erinbluetee Yeah, it's really mature of you to understand your parent's still love you as I am having trouble believing it. I don't want to be in the situation where I keep minimal contact with a family that doesn't accept me. I figure that if they love me then they can accept this as I have told them time and time again through my teen years that this is who I am.

[MyRochambeau]

If I wasn't dirt poor I'd go and bring slayne to cheer you on. I only wish your parents could be...well parents. You need the support now and decent human beings should see that.

[AbstractAlice]

@MyRochambeau Thank you so much. This really means alot and made me tear up reading it. You guys are so sweet. I wish I wasn't so busy so I could chat with you :(

[AbstractAlice]

@Jimfoxyboy It's really good your sister is supportive. I can only imagine how helpful supportive family must be. and yeah there are better places to shop. I don't usually go to bluenotes as it generally sucks. All the other stores I go to and love have been nothing short of fantastic :)

[AbstractAlice]

@TheFatalSyndrome That's sweet and I will be hard pressed to not eat all the food myself. I can only hope my parent's will come around. Let's keep our fingers crossed.

[TheFatalSyndrome]

It's awful that your mother ain't supportive, it really is. Heck, I'd go to your wedding if I could... but I might wind up eating all the food. Parents can be really hard to get to come around really...

Oy people in the store... I feel bad when I don't stand for somethin' too. Also, Rent is a great movie but really saddening.

[Jimfoxyboy]

Ouch about the store. Hopefully there are more accepting places out where you are.

Family dynamics can be somewhat twitchy. I've been sort of struggling with mine for too long. Last month, I told my sister about things for the first time. Shes curious but said she'd be supportive. We are going to talk more about things soon as she can get time off work next month.

And, I would definitely go to your wedding, if I could have afforded it. But you have my support here!

[AbstractAlice]

@MyRochambeau That's really sweet of you to say, thank you so much. I wish my parents would be parents too.