Darryl Cross - Negative Self-Talk

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[djarmosco]

Dr. Darryl,

First of all I love your name! Second great visual this is spot on. I'm a Life Coach so if you don't mind I may use the visual with my clients. The most important piece to this is doing the new thought. Most people get it intellectually but don't take the next step and condition the new thought (belief). As you know our behavior comes from our deeper mind (subconscious) and that's where the change needs to take place. Doing it one time could work if the intensity is there.

Darryl

[drdarrylcross]

@djarmosco Hi Darryl, Thanks for your comments, and yes, you're quite right in that it's not only identifying that you have faulty self-talk in the first place, it's being disciplined enough to sit down and re-work that thought so that you can replace it with a better and more positive thought that then becomes integrated and part of who you are. Go well.

Darryl Cross

[shannonasalways]

Wow, I had a vague understanding of this in my mind but my thoughts were much more muddled up. Seeing it drawn out like this is so effective. Thank you :)

[drdarrylcross]

@shannonasalways

Hi, Thanks for your comments. Life is really more simple than we think sometimes; we just tend to make it more complicated than it ought to be. Go well.

Darryl Cross

[reddog12341]

I find it more helpful to make the emotional states into statements: "I cannot live without my girlfriend who has left me" Next, we question that statement, point out its irrationalities and rewrite a more accurate statement which actually changes the emotional charge: " I know it will be very tough to be without her to be without her, but I'm a good guy, I have a lot to offer and I'll find someone soon." Specific statement seem to make easier targets for change.

[drdarrylcross]

@reddog12341

Hi, I agree that it's all about being able to change your first automatic (and generally negative statement) into a more rational statement which puts the situation into a better perspective. Your "girlfriend" statement is a good example of how to turn around your thoughts so that a person can feel better.

[Enerjee]

This is called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and works for most problems people encounter. I went through a short programme of it to treat the problem I had with OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder).

This is a very good presentation.

[homuserrantis]

Dr. Darryl,

This talk is really great. I am in a negative wave for a long time now and I can't manage to get rid of it. I know for sure the cause of my negative emotions, which is being in a place I don't want to be and stuck into a financial, professional and social crisis. However, I have been reasoning that the trigger have caused my feelings (and I am struggling to change the situation). However, this insight of the thoughts in between was brilliant. Thanks. I'll take your challenge!

[homuserrantis]

@dreggan

Hi dreggan, actually I didn't notice it. Then I re-watched the vid and this happens once or another but it seems natural to me, don't bother me. He has an excellent diction and for me this dominates the talk.

[dreggan]

Good presentation and useful material - except for the constant lip smacking ! The salivary 'tisk' sound every time you talk is very distracting! Although maybe it's just me......

[TheHillsInTheUK]

Simple, logical & well presented. Dave UK

[finnenvenn]

Thank you for a great video

[finnenvenn]

Thank you for a great video