Pursuer and Distancer in a relationship

Sevin Philips, MFT provides answers to the many questions in relationships. Get the support and advice for couples, dating, friends or family. The help you need when you need it. Learn about the push/pull effect of the pursuer and distancer and some instruction on how to change for the better. Twitter @SevinPhilips - www.SFtherapy.org - Facebook, Sevin Philips, MFT

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[JohnD212]

This is so valuable. Thank you. I've known i had this pattern in my life but you really spoke to the pursuer in me. Thanks again.

[SevinPhilips]

@JohnD212 so happy you like the video. It can be a painful pattern. Being aware of it is half the battle.

[TheSkepticUn]

I have a little question that is in regards to a comment at 2:25, where Sevin says that the Pursuer chases after unavailable people....which seems to imply that all the distancers are hooped (for not being available) and the Pursuers are hooped for chasing the unattainable...How sad is that?? And futile! OUCH!

[robertaib]

thankyou Sevin!

[WELeeish]

how do i connect with a distancer without scaring him. My boyfriend broke up with me and we have not spoken to each other for 3 months.

[FreeBlago1]

Straighten your lamp shade, it bothers us. Thanks!