Trying to be friends with my ex-girlfriend

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I went out with this girl for a week. I felt like she was just dating me to be able to say she had a boyfriend. So i broke up with her. We were friends, but later she sent me a text message that was meant for someone else. She called me a nub. I want to be friends what do I do?

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[ask123321]

i don't know what a "nub" (nube?) is... it must be something bad?

anyway, if she called you that because she feels rejected by you for breaking up with her, then it's not a good idea to try to be friends.

if she really does think you're a "nub" then she's not your friend.

either way, you're probably better off taking a step back to get a broader perspective.

(i can't help being curious about why you want to be friends with her? that may be a good thing to pray over.)

[TheAppieShow]

I am going to assume this kid was called a "nube." And, really, the only thing I have to say about this is - sometimes we lose friendships. The ones I ever tried so hard to keep were the ones that I never did. So, if it doesn't come naturally, anymore, then I would just let it be. If it a friendship never takes off, again, that is OKAY. We all have different personalities for a reason. If you got a "fake dating" vibe, you probably have a fake friend vibe, too.

[HeyThatsHolly]

Friends don't call friends names behind their back, you should seek healthier friendships :)

[HeyThatsMike]

You don't want to be friends, not only did she have a strike one with fake dating you but she also called you a nub, which I assume is a bad thing. Not the kind of friend you want.