Ex-Gay Therapy Stunted My Creative Growth

Constantly reparative therapy groups often confuse gender identity and sexual orientation, thus changing the unique personalities of great people in attempt to change their sexual orientation.

I was taught that my "non-masculine" behaviors (such as theatre, choir, etc) were causing me to be gay, when in fact, gender expression has nothing to do with a person's sexual orientation.

I was forced to give up those things and the wounds still exist and still hurt time to time.

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[justinchillin76]

sounds like gay propaganda. I have no attraction and I am 32 and homosexuality has given me the wonderful experience of an std...a dead boyfriend who decided to take his own life with me in the car and being 32 with no kids.

You live that life style you will only know pain

[tenorcervantes]

i am very sorry about your loss and the unfortunate negative experiences you have had. i remember when i felt that homosexuality was so sinful and shameful that i too had planned to take my own life. but what changed for me was a new understanding of what it means to love someone and how it is that love someone. i see sexuality as a gift regardless of one's sexual orientation--a gift that shouldn't be taken light or regarded with disdain. But at the same time, a gift that should be praised.

[tenorcervantes]

That's the beauty of creation though, the fact that there is diversity in sexuality. Clearly everyone isn't gay and everyone isn't straight. Not everyone is meant to produce offspring, in fact there are many straight couples that don't have kids and many that never plan too. Relationships are based on far more than just procreation.

[romperstompist]

Lol justin chillin needs condoms and to learn about adoption what a douche

[indvine8]

I tried so hard to not be gay that I lost everything that I was including the good in my personality. I tried not to be ruled by my attraction to men. I knew people would try to change me so I hardly told anyone about my struggles. Through prayer I discovered that God wanted me to continue singing in my high voice and being aesthetically creative. Now i'm somewhat asexual, still hanging on. I'm just not letting go of Jesus because his holy spirit has given me much comfort, love and peace.

[eurogal100]

I am so sorry that this counselor did this to you! But I am so glad you have returned to performing! That is horrible that you were driven from what you love. It is a real shame that there is so much gender stereotyping when it comes to the arts. The perception that singing a tenor part is "gay" also means a lot of straight guys fear to join the choir for fear of being labeled. It's the reason why amateur choirs are short on men!

[MICKEYMIN2]

A Real Man is one of courage, honor, integrity, compassion for his fellows, humility and perseverance. IMO you stand very tall and strong; exhibiting an extraordinary amount of passion in seeking the value of your struggles in that they may benefit others. By your willingness to share your experiences (and by the total number of views) I am positive that you certainly have helped others, perhaps unknowingly saving lives. Now that's a MAN !! Thanks much

[conscious4]

@justinchillin76

its not because you had a bad experience that all gay people will too, you cannot jugde everybody lives based on some bad things that happened to you

the boyfriend might have taken his life due to homophobic people in society, to the hate to gay people, your suffering his due to hate from homophobia, and doesn't not relate to being gay

you obviously should consult a psychologist because you cannot think clearly, you are confused

grow up, learn to think like an adult!

[unevraiejade]

Wow! I really like this video and what you say in it. I agree with you on the point that people mix up sexual orientation and gender and I am so sad that some people in the comments section took this as gay propaganda. *Sigh!*

Plus, there is absolutely no direct connection between your voice range and your sexual orientation or gender! I am a lesbian and sing soprano and, hopefully, I never had a bad experience like you had, even if I have sung either in "straight" or "gay" vocal ensembles.

[Deusarmos]

@mikey2653 Loved your comment:)

[Deusarmos]

@quarterduce Though, not always, but here it's just BINGO!

[Deusarmos]

@Reqrezentin LOLs!

[Deusarmos]

Gosh! Your case is terrible! So sorry for you. Did you or will you try to sue them? It will make sense: (1)you'll be reimbursed because of all the horrible consequences you told were caused by their fckng stupid therapies, and (2) the awareness will arise, and could be you'll help guys like you not to be trapped like you were.

BTW, I'm tenor as well, and I am not complaining on my gay orientation:)