Enneagram Type 4

The Tragic Romantic: A deep sense of longing for what is idealized or unavailable. Attention naturally goes to what is missing or special.

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[aLatenightdreamer]

I am a four, but I never thought I had to deal with envy part. I now realize I deal with it all the time. When I was younger, I felt unnatractive, and truly belived that my more beautiful friends had the only things that could possibly make me happy. Later, after I began to see myself as attractive, as an artist I envied people who were better than me as them having an unnattainable skill to express what I wanted to, and now, people who are at ease with themselves.

[rjajc]

I sometimes wonder. As 4s, we will never stop envying because to find the 'missing piece' might make us complete, which might make us feel stable. This is scarily 'ordinary' and even 'boring', so we avoid it!

[BrightYoungManMusic]

I discovered I was a four pretty recently, and wow, it is so accurate.

[Standuble]

I am a four and I often wish I was five. I often feel self-conscious and defective which ironically is often the work of the four.

[cassandratype4]

i am a four

[xXJanelKittyXx]

@ilxenu Yeah, it's obviously not as absolute as: disintegrate to 2, become a terrible person, integrate to 1, become an amazing, perfect individual, but I was just generalizing it for a person who seemed unfamiliar with Enneagram theory just so it wasn't too confusing o_O. Being a 4, I know exactly what you mean. ;P

[ilxenu]

@xXJanelKittyXx

And see, I'm being 1ish in correcting you right now! Haha.

[ilxenu]

@xXJanelKittyXx

Naranjo had originally come up with the theory of integration/disintegration in the arrows, but later retracted it saying that we can go to the high or low side of either of the types we are aligned to. ie. I'm a 4 and can be disciplined and action-oriented like the high side of 1 but can carry the critical perfectionism that they have - also, I can be jealous and controlling like the 2, but nurturing and loving unconditional. It goes both ways.

[ilxenu]

Look at old school David! Cute.

[ilxenu]

Look at David!

[deklifhanger]

This makes me depressed.

[queentantrumofficial]

This video is soooooooooo true.