Ask Dr. Ty - "Sex Outside the Bed"

"I came to Christ 4 years ago and would love to be married. I'm in my 30's, have a great job in Corporate America, a couple of nice cars, a couple of properties, pretty well know...
But my heart is disturbed that I haven't met someone who meets me compatible in certain areas.

I don't want to sleep around (I'm abstinent). Every time I seriously date a church lady and we get to the subject of sex and I give them examples of some of the things I like such as having sex outside, in the park, in the rain, at the show, receiving oral while driving...

When I mention oral sex or spontaneous sex to them, they look at me crazy. I'm frustrated because when I wasn't saved, church ladies as well non-believers were good for it. But now that I'm living right church ladies act like they don't like any of those things or are embarrassed by them."

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[tonyatunez]

Sex should be reserved for marriage. Why is he even talking about sex to women he has no intention of marrying? Sex within marriage is sacred. Why would a woman just open up to this man and tell him her most deepest desires? What's up with the bananas?

[MAYDAYES]

She is ten times better than Bishop Thomas Weeks. She need to talk to him. Because he is not making any since at all.

[mrdojob]

@NDFreak7 i agree a 20 minute ceremony and a piece of paper changes nothing at all. A unmarried couple who have known each other for years have much more right to have sex than a couple who have married in a few months of knowing each other.

[NDFreak7]

Marriage is simply a way for these people to justify their sexual behaviors. Why not refrain from sex, even if one is married? Sex in marriage is still sex. It doesn't make it more pure, folks.

[mrdojob]

@victorromerone you are a fucking moron.

[victorromerone]

I AM A CHRISTIAN, AND WHAT I PICKED UP WAS THE VULGARITY OF YOUR PICKING UP AN BANANA WHILE DISCUSSING MEN, AND CHOPPING FRUIT, WHILE TALKING ABOUT FORBIDDEN FRUIT. I WAS INTERESTED UNTIL YOU STARTED PLAYING WITH PEOPLES HEADS SUBLIMINALLY. MANY CHRISTIANS EYES ARE OPEN. MAY GOD FORGIVE YOU.

[simone56]

@007bcom, what business do two unmarried persons have discussing sexual positions and locales? That is reserved for the marriage bed. The only way for one to know whether you are compatible is the marriage bed. All sorts of temptation and sin are present when these things are discussed before the proper time. If you know anything about sex before marriage it is because of previous sin. I am concerned that sex before marriage wasn't emphasized as wrong in the video, but I digress...

[007bcom]

@simone56 As a Christian, I STRONGLY disagree with you!! It is mature and wise to discuss sexual expectations before you get married to see if you share the same goals and to see if they are compatible. If people put half the effort into planning their marriage as opposed to planning their wedding - their would be better marriages. There is more to marriage than just being in love, you have to be compatible.

[Darlene7843]

1 Corinthians 7 is a good read! wow! Matthew 24:36-39. The judge and great king is coming church, lets focus !

[DeaconCliff]

this is a very good answer. What you are saying however, is resulting in an apple being butchered as opposed to being peeled.

[Seedcovers]

Awesome video!