Beyond Blue: When a Friendship Ends

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[BobbyDamiano]

That is so true to what was said here. In October of 2010, I ended a 21 year long friendship with someone that perfectly describes the person in Therese's description. It was very toxic and I didn't feel very good about myself whenever I got together with this person. Ironically, some of my former friend's oldest friends agreed with me and do not bother with this person either. It was a tough decision, but I am a lot happier and looking forward to being my own best friend. Therese, THANK YOU!

[sakusasu95]

thank you

[ticlkemepink16]

Thank you so much for posting this, i felt like you were talking straight at me..you are truly a wise person...I believe that when one breaks up with a friend it hurts really deep and sometimes they don't realize it .. they even say things that hurt more than any sort of fight

[ticlkemepink16]

@CoreishmihaF been there and its been tough to know how you think you know a person and turns outs they're complete strangers

[CoreishmihaF]

Its normal to become blue once it end. I'm barely 20 now but God, who knows the one that I thought to be best friend turned out to one of the most possibly toxic narcissist I've ever known and it took me 10 years to know it. The bright side is, since then I knew exactly who I should avoid and who's more trustworthy. And I'm able to move one and let go of that person more easily, not because I wanted to but because I had to anyway. Its not easy but at least its not impossible either

[hopena]

I don't see why it shouldn't be just as heartbreaking to lose a friend. :)

[itsstillfriday]

THanks! ..or sometimes.. another person's new love intrest gets in their way making them not capable of being there with you.. or for you .. as they had been.. I suppose in that circumstance .. its volitional... and they are making a selfish choice.. and thus they are in the toxic category.. Too bad for them.. when the love becommes old news. or breaks up.. .and they look to find me as a friend.. I think I will have long since given up on being available for them..... such a drag on my part!

[AnneCosta1]

Adain, the Holy Spirit has used you to encourage me this morning as I was contemplating how to approach the ending of a friendship... I clicked on Beyond Blue and there it was. Bless you

[mymorex09]

I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. I went through this situation this summer. As women, sometimes we are taught that "real friends" are with you no matter what-even when you hurt them and won't apologize. If she was my "real friend" however, I don't think she'd blink at apologizing for hurting me. Me remaining her friend after that would change our mutual relationship into a dominant/submissive one. As much as it hurt losing the relationship, it would have hurt more to stay in it.

[rogkeista]

Gorgeous woman