Be Selfish

http://www.SurvivingMyselfBook.com Suicide attempt survivor Andy Grant's thoughts on suicide and selfishness.

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[leilaniandpuppies]

Unless you have personally experienced a mental illness, you can fuck off. You have no idea.

[PlasticVille]

@leilaniandpuppies Ha!! Thanks for the laugh

[leilaniandpuppies]

@PlasticVille i wasn't meaning you.. lol i was meaning negative comments! this video is viral on tumblr, i'm totally agreeing with you!!

[PlasticVille]

@leilaniandpuppies LOL. I wasn't sure when I read it - which was part of my laughter. Thanks!

[gumdroptea]

Hello, my name is Lynsay and I just wanted to tell you how much of an inspiration you are to me. I discovered this video when I was in a depressive state and it really brought my moods up. I watched it a few more times since, & I really love your message. Thank you, Andy Grant. You are an incredible person. c:

[PlasticVille]

@gumdroptea YOU are an incredible person, Lynsay. I'm glad the video helped you. That is why I do them. - Andy

[Jkun]

I cannot live life further in the way that I used to do.

After I started thinking about the world, my entire life changed. One goal in life left..

That goal weighs very heavy on me, and it is ABOUT other people's happiness.

In my case, suicide is a selfish action. All it would do free me from a problem inflicted upon myself at the expense of everyone else. But, I cannot do that even if the feeling is strong enough.

You may want to think about the effects of your video...

~Jkun~

[sicktoaster]

@Reiken37

1. Why should anyone feel obligated unless the feeling is a means towards an end the person desires?

2. Even if he's wrong what happens to him, because of it? Absolutely nothing.

[sicktoaster]

...personal happiness?" Even if you totally screwed up going on that one at least you'd be happy.

[sicktoaster]

But ultimately the one question you should ask yourself is whether or not the thoughts or feelings are functionally necessary which mostly but not entirely breaks down to "is it good for my...

[sicktoaster]

...position in society. A person can have 10 kids but if they all die of malnutrition that person has failed in evolutionary terms.

[sicktoaster]

A lot of reasons people have for their emotions are made up to try to explain them when really all emotions roots back to evolution and natural selection in some way. If a person feels bad it probably is not for the reasons they are imagining, and what they should do is go out and build opportunities for success. This isn't to say we should all go out and start having lots of babies. Long-term(across many generations) reproductive success requires the attainment of a stable, comfortable...

[sicktoaster]

...self-interests for it to make you feel bad.

There's a few that are in self-interest like the fear that hooks your feet to the sidewalk when you hear a car wizzing by. But most "bad feelings" are completely unnecessary. A good question to ask yourself is whether your emotions help you within your evolutionary context, since that's the meaning of life to survive and to propagate DNA. I'm not against childlessness as childless couples can promote natural selection through helping their kin.

[sicktoaster]

...would've hurt my happiness.

Anorexia shows physical chemistry, yet it is disproportionately higher in the U.S. In the U.S. there are overblown standards of beauty for women. Our brain is made of neurons which transfer chemicals and energy at high speeds. The greatest influence on a person's brain chemistry is their social environment and how they choose to interact with and perceive it.

Think of all the things we're taught should make us feel bad, ask yourself whether it serves your own...

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@MegaJoyful123

...have to put emotional stock in the concept of "failure".

Why should I or anybody else care about failure? What good does that do? If I choose not to care about failure and I succeed then I am successful and happy. If I choose not to care and I fail then I've failed but the important thing is that I'm happy. If I choose to care and fail anyways I've wasted my time on unpleasant emotions. If I care and then succeed then it's an empty success because worrying about failure...

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@MegaJoyful123

What if in some cases people don't do as I suggested in my other comments or what is suggested in these videos because when they talk about their problems people are too afraid to make these suggestions out of sensitivity?

What if there are people who could've been helped with just a little advice who instead go through an extreme amount of therapy because people are too afraid to try these simple methods first?

It might just not have occured to a person that they don't actually..