Beauty = Value?

You're So Pretty... The Way You Were

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[ARCexmachina]

Meiko, thank you so much for making this video, it was very enlightening to me. I'm in the early stages of transition and have been forced to take a look at what REALLY makes me me. I had no idea how mentally wrapped up I was in concerns with beauty...I've come to realize that so much of my fear of transitioning is just fear of losing the one thing that I could always count on to get me positive attention: my looks, and also fearing that others would comment on that perceived loss.

[MeikoEliasXavier]

@ARCexmachina Yeah, unfortunately that's just how we are programed in this culture, to place value on looks and attraction. It's something I think most of us struggle with-- and eventually, if we don't learn it in our young and healthy beautiful days, we learn it later in life when our bodies begin to fall apart. Hair loss, muscle loss, wrinkles, skin texture and pigment changes, we learn eventually that value is deeper than just skin level.

[underd0g100]

meiko, i'd really love the oportunity to speak with you, im going through quite a rough time at the moment with my transition but your vids are so heartwarming and i actually havnt met anyone with such a great outlook on life and everything that goes with it. you really are a big inspiration to me meiko, thank you

[MeikoEliasXavier]

@underd0g100 Feel free to drop me a message here or on Facebook anytime. My FB link is right on my main channel page.

[4NDR414D]

I am really glad you made this video, It can be very difficult going through this and keep yourself grounded with real expectations and a sense of worth and appreciation for yourself. As a woman I definitely can relate. I once people get that confidence and comfort level, it seems you spend less time thinking about appearance and find people become drawn to you anyway,

[MeikoEliasXavier]

@4NDR414D well said!!!

[MeikoEliasXavier]

@endcamp89 I have no desire to fill the space of the kind of definition you believe a "real man" to be. I am true to myself... A person that feels no need to speak with a "powerful" or aggressive tone of voice is one that knows the impact one has with the words one speaks, and has nothing to prove. "Only the gentle are ever really strong."

[MeikoEliasXavier]

@jaenadar This is the BEST comment EVER!!! Thank you! Great analogy!

[itsselmaboo11]

Can i quote youu on that last part...? Grreatt video :))

[vidhead85]

Unfortunately, beauty does equal value...to shallow individuals. My ex was/is kind of on the smaller side, and I'm a big guy myself, constantly wondering what he saw in me becuase while he was what I've always wanted, I couldn't see why I was what he wanted. Then one day I asked and he said: I saw what was inside and that really made me do a double take on my thoughts about that. Next, you are attractive, but those commenting only on looks I say have no substance. Keep up the good work brother!

[itsselmaboo11]

@jaenadar

nice :)

[DisturbedLunchBox]

I'm so happy I found your videos! You are an incredibly eloquent person, Meiko and listening to you is such a joy. <3

[XxHeavellxX]

Thank you for making this video.. I've been struggling to decide wether I wanna go on hormones because of the physical changes I want to avoid (body hair/hair loss) and this has made it a little more clear for me but still hard..

[bluebeeem]

you are a very Beautiful person ...period.

[krisagui]

OMG I said it...i must be very tired and need to go sleep XD and also i'm italian so I have to think a little before writing something and it happens to write uncorrectly

[krisagui]

@endcamp89 for me it is a boy like any other boys... It is maybe cause i know the gay boy scene and for me it's not like a man has to be rude and extra-masculine to be a man... I repeat: he's feminine (not that much i think) like many guys...surely he's not just feminine..we see his femininity cause he's a boy, but I can see his manhood too =) And he's beautiful as he is

[jonatanblack01]

@endcamp89 you have no idea what it means to be a man.

[icerainlegend]

Thank you for making your videos. I think right now in my life, I am somewhat absorbed in my self. In looking good the way I want to look, but also in other peoples eyes. I'm just trying to figureout who I am, and who I want to be both on the inside and outside. Anyway, I just Love the way you think, and how you grow and learn. It makes me so happy when I listen to people like you, and your wisdom makes my journey a happier one.