I Think I'm Gay, But...

There are a variety of reasons why someone might be confused about being gay. Many guys feel as though they may be perceived as less masculine or weird if they identify as gay; others may feel as though they are attracted to guys, but certain acts of sex or intimacy may not be appealing to him; additonally, many guys are confused about the relationship aspect: they are unsure of how a relationship with another guy would work, or have trouble seeing themselves as marrying another guy. These issues and many more create a lot of confusion as well as reluctance to admit that one is gay.

I think it is important to realize that there are many, many people who feel the exact same way as you do. I guarentee that that there are quite a lot of people who are gay that we do not realize.

I think an important step in understand yourself is to seek out someone who is feeling similar to you.

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[MyNameNoLongerExists]

Today was my first gay straight alliance meeting. It took a while but I made my club and 12 people came so far.

[StraightActingGayGuy]

@MyNameNoLongerExists congratulations!

[zeek72358]

Rick, honestly I don't know how you do it. Watching you work your way through some pretty emotional feelings about being gay is absolutely refreshing. And so informative(!!), to gays of all ages that are in a similar place emotionally. For there are 20yr olds and 50yr olds that are going through similar phases of coming out and discovering what being gay means to them. Please know how fortunate you are to be going through them at your age - and not in your 40s, 50s, or even 60s! But no mat

[StraightActingGayGuy]

@zeek72358 Thank you for your very nice comment!

[inquiry10]

I really appreciate this vid.

[StraightActingGayGuy]

@inquiry10 Good to hear!

[Shanemoon87]

I can totally relate to this. Love him! :)

[AntimatterSemen]

As a 50/50 bisexual, I perfectly understand what you're saying so well. Because:

A. I'm turned on by many aspects of guys, but not anal; I prefer other sexual practices.

B. This will sound shallow, but the problem with lifelong relationships is that I'm only sexually turned on by young, skinny, good-looking twinks in their 20's (like you, my hot, naughty boy!!!) - at least several years younger than me. Older, fat men physically repulse me.  Sorry, it's the way I am.

[activeharmonic]

Cont...... Opportunity to connect with - all the best to you :-)

[activeharmonic]

Hi Eric, just discovered your vids now jan 5 /12 . I think some who have commented on this vid need to check out your encounter in Germany vid :-) being gay is not always about sex and not always being about sex does not change the fact of being gay.

Your comments resonate so much with me. As a masculine in the closet 50 yo I've often thought similarly about the issues that you have raised. Thank goodness for YouTube, it enables me to connect with like minded people that I don't usually have an

[b4804514]

Hey Eric A Gay Collab is looking for a Friday person - you would be a good fit - send them one of your vids

[son4t4]

(part 7) Did u know the companions of Jesus loved Jesus more than their wives? Gandhi had followers loving him more than their wives. There are many cases where sometimes man love another man more than a woman. That is brotherhood love and it does not mean you have to force yourself to follow the 'norm' (ie: having sex) just because u love somebody. I sincerely hope all gays (sincere love for brothers and not for lust) find the distinction and settle the confusion they might have. Thanx!! (end)

[son4t4]

(part5)...and i humbly and personally think u might be confused with love in the name of brotherhood with natural love between man and woman. Though i am not in your shoes, I hope you can explore this idea, look at other societies internationally, and not just within your circle. Might be sex is the main drilling mechanism in 'western' countries, however please explore other circles of international soceity and how they perceive liking another man and how they manage this. (to part 6)

[son4t4]

(part4) When i mention, things are created to be put at its proper place, eg. Man has the sexual tool that is compatible with a lady. It also matches, physically, emotionally, spritually and sexually (find the right woman, this will happen) at all level of age and times despite the circumstances. Getting married is not all about sex, its more to that, we will all realize when we grow older, 50s,60s,70s,80s etc. I understand you are trying to find meaning and reason for how u feel..(to part 5)

[son4t4]

(part3)Men do share heart to heart talk, play soccer together, drink together, study together and share life's most beloved moments together and this also constitute what is called brotherhood love. I understand u feel uncomfortable doing sexual activities. Liking another man does not mean you have to enforce sex desire on another man. It is ohkeh not to do it. Things are normally created to be put at its proper place. Men will feel most natural sexually with a woman (to part 4)

[son4t4]

(part2) However, this bond between men does not have to constitute into a sexual relationship. It is important to make a clear distinction between love between men(brotherhood love) and love for a woman. Sometimes u may feel u are in love with a man, that is your brotherhood love. All men have em, depends on the society u live in. That is why guys always flock together. They are friends. Men generally appear fierce and rugged, but there are alot more in other countries that are milder.(topart3)