May December Dating

What age gap is too big to take the leap?  Julia, Mary, and Meghan talk about dating older men, dating younger men and everything in between. Should you follow Demi's lead? Or Katie's?

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[JCragan]

You girls need to find yourself a good nerd, they won't hurt you.... just ignore you for video games.

[StoryFromTheStars]

I think May December relationships are great as long as both people are on the same maturity level. Its when theres a difference there that you start seeing problems. My boyfriend is 28 and I'm 20 and there are NO problems. He's more courtious, more caring, and he actually cares about how I feel, and think. But the boyfriends I've had closer to my age were nothing like that.

[7575047]

IMO, the older women and younger man relationship doesn't work very well if you want to be treated like a man. You'll be treated like a boy. I lived it (10 year difference) and got divorced to save my masculinity and sanity. Don't do it guys.

[LieutenantSparkles]

@MurasakiNeko lol what about people who didn't know the man was older and was so attracted that when they found out they were like; eff that, want this person too bad!

cause i have the 20 and 40 thing going on.

[missmuggledetector]

Hm, my boyfriend and I are 7 years apart but I don't think that qualifies as May-December lol. I'm 18 and he's 25 but we get along like peas and carrots quite simply. Whoever is right for you, age should not matter as long as you're both legal.

[sailorsillystars]

@StoryFromTheStars

borrrinnggg

I like it when they girls are 12 - 17 and the men 30 - 40

[LowWave]

Meghan - So, having the man "by the balls" is a good thing? Not for men it isn't.

[MurasakiNeko]

@pongespob As I said, it's fine if you meet someone younger/older than you & they're interested so you get together. You can't account for feelings.

But it's another thing entirely if you seek out people 10+ years older/younger than you to the COMPLETE EXCLUSION of people your own age. Like if you think that "only an older man can truly understand me!" or "I'm such a hot 50-year-old that only hot women under age 30 deserve a piece of me." I do think that's maladjusted-- and supremely arrogant.

[pongespob]

@MurasakiNeko "...people who purposely seek out substantially older/younger partners may have some unresolved issues..."

Yeah, the unresolved issue is that they're looking for someone young and attractive. What straight guy in his 30's and up is going to run away screaming if a bodacious girl in her late teens or early 20's were to show an interest? If she's not an airhead, has her stuff together I wouldn't push her away.

[kryptonitebullet179]

why is the video so blurry?

[MurasakiNeko]

I've always heard the formula as: the younger person should be at least half the older person's age plus 7 years. So a 20-year difference is okay if you're 40 and 60, but not okay if you're 20 and 40.

I do think that people who purposely seek out substantially older/younger partners may have some unresolved issues, though /-: It's one thing to meet someone older or younger and fall for him/her, but to seek an age type out above all others strikes me as a bit creepy.

[SagesseNoir]

@StoryFromTheStars

But there's not that much difference between 20 & 28. If he were forty or your forty eight, then there would be a signficant difference. That would be a May/December relation. You and your boyfriend have, let us say, a May/August relation