The Sociopath Next Door • Martha Stout • Part 1

We think of sociopaths as violent although most are quite ordinary with disorders undetected. I realized her lack of conscience is deflected and masked quite well with a mastery of the blame game. Masters of this game come out quite calm and composed when they contend with those equally equipped, but ironically they are flustered and irritated when they contend with non-masters or those who do not have a clue of how the game is played.

She strutted into a meeting without the ingredients and is battered, admonished and embarrassed in front of peers. Her brashness is stripped and ego dented. A phone call subsequently indicated the game is imminent and twenty-four hours later it is in full swing, but with a non-master. Thirty-four hours into the event she is all flustered and irritated.

My question is does she hone her skills when the game is played with a master or with a non-master! Martha offers clues to arm against the sociopath, suspect flattery and recognize pity play. Above all, she explains when the sociopath beckons, how to recognize and deal with the aberration.

The Sociopath Next Door is an absorbing self-help manual. Martha Stout serves in expunging guilt in relevant parties by extracting diabolical strains residing in deep recesses and placing them on the table.

Words, Videography -- Tommy Peters

Part 1 of Disc 1. http://youtu.be/rMYVpFwLRIk

Part 2 of Disc 1. http://youtu.be/O75DT-gYksE

Part 3 of Disc 1. http://youtu.be/CWyHIF0LGzQ

Part 4 of Disc 1. http://youtu.be/V5ggFYkCqR0

Part 5 of Disc 1. http://youtu.be/oPKS8bQC_iw

Part 6 of Disc 1. http://youtu.be/sXwXcicdsfs

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Afterword: The writer first published the above review on April 12th 2008 from an experience a day earlier.

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[DianaMC412]

I had a child with one of them, its a unique hell no one understands. Ive spent years studying them to figure out how to get them into the "abandonment" stage. Im hoping that is were we are at now. but we will see

[tmpeters]

@DianaMC412 Thanks for sharing, Diana. Vocabulary affects thought and thought inevitably results in action. I said this to a friend. "When someone you consider trash intimidates or frightens you and if you are indeed intimidated and / or frightened, you assume the status of the trash." Her situation may differ from yours but the right vocabulary was impetus to affecting her mood, body language and response. Now she tells me, "he's a son of a bitch but he's my son of a bitch. I'll sort him out"

[guydecervens]

Thanks for this upload. I married one of these. It's nice to understand what happened. It's the only way to move on.

[tmpeters]

@guydecervens Guy, you're most welcome. Martha's files are a liberating experience. You married one, you say. Safe to assume she has redeeming points. Everyone has. Could you summarize some of them? Beers

[poodlesusan]

Ah, thank you for uploading this, what an easy voice to listen to & learn from. DSM has inherent problems (shaped by insurance corps for billing schedules, & 3/7 of vague criteria seems scattershot), but those of us who have known sociopaths understand how to interpret these criteria. People who reject this information either have not (yet) suffered by a sociopath, or are in denial.

[tmpeters]

@poodlesusan You are most welcome Susan. An encounter with one makes him (not the imbecile) an excellent teacher. On the micro, one found in the family is (pardon the French) a ‘son of a bitch’ but to qualify the phrase, ‘he is OUR son of a bitch.' The conjunction (OUR) is the operative. It signals solidarity. It signals coalescence. It discourages unsolicited interference. Most of all, it offers reprieve to make good. On the macro, the same conjunction is the operative. Beers - Tommy

[2consul]

First, there is no room here for the words you use. Expletives are not arguments. Secondly, that you differ with a definition or two does in no way detract from Ms. Stout's able description of a certain range of persons; people who do whatever they wish, with and to others - their only constraint being fear of being incarcerated when what they do violates others' rights to be free from force, threats of force and fraud.

[the23snake]

MY NAME IS STABBY. WHAT'S YOUR NAME?

[CivilRights4Olympia]

"If despite your broke-ass-ed-ness can land a girl"-lol

[mickey77tube]

I think I have a sociopath next door. He moved my survey stakes, he threatened to beat up a 93 year old man. The police stick up for him and the judge sticks up for him, they are all sociopaths.

[bill4long]

I drink heavily to kill the sociopath within. Damn that sonofabitch!

[llel11]

one thing i think is a bit off about this reading is it assumes that these folks are in 'jobs'...while leaving out the female sociopaths who use their sexuality almost exclusively in life. i am not talking about prostitutes and strippers, because that work.

[BlotBlackInk]

@PhilMyBod41 That's a pretty narrow why of seeing things, there is such a thing as the great equalizer called death, I think in that light, winning isn't the most important thing.

[BlotBlackInk]

@clergame Nope

[BlotBlackInk]

@Jeffersonwazright Well I don't envy you, I have a pretty rich emotional life, assuming you even are a sociopath I wouldn't know you well enough to say, a lot of people try to act like sociopaths because they think it's cool but really it's just pathetic.

[TheChannyj28]

I grew up w/ a Sociopath. My brother... 

[morjan11]

@edwardtang1977 We hardly choose to be born this way. You don't know what it is like to have emptiness inside you. You could never fathom what it is like to have a partner that you know would take a bullet for you, and you can turn your back on them and never look back without a second thought. I would like to point out that perhaps you think you can pick us out - you would have met many which also slipped through your guard. Many of us live among you, undetected. We want to understand ourselves