Adult Children of Personality Disordered Parents Need Their Own Recovery

Speaking not only as a Life Coach, BPD, and mental Health Coach, A.J. Mahari emphasizes to you, if you are adult child of a parent with BPD, NPD, or any personality disorder (or combination of said) that you need your own recovery. Children do learn what they live. A great deal of the inter-generational suffering of those who were the children of a personality disordered parent or parents has to do with the toxic legacy of not resolving issues such as codependence, enmeshment, toxic relating, chaotic and unhealthy relationships with one's parent(s). There is a legacy to having been the child of a personality disordered parent or parents and A.J. Mahari knows this all-too-well in her own personal life as well having had a mother with BPD and a father with BPD/NPD. Personality Disordered Parents are not emotionally available and children are negatively impacted as a result. Adult children of a personality disordered parent or parents need their own recovery.

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[mayita771]

@ajmahari i recently divorced my whole family, the dysfunctionality of their dynamics was terrible for me and I just could not take it anymore. My mother is a Narcissist. But i do not feel I am. Do you think this is something you pass to your kids? Like it is something genetic?

[ajmahari]

@mayita771 If there is anything genetic it is thought to be minor compared to what children learn what they live, in other words, the woundedness passed on through the generations due to lack of ability to successfully bond with a child and child with BPD or NPD mother and then the abandonment and shame, among other issues, this creates. Some people go on to develop same personality disorder as parent some don't. Either way, it is important to get away from toxic people to recover.

[TheBaconEggAndCheese]

The BPD sufferer is my dad. As a now adult male, I know EXACTLY how I don't want to be in the years to come, and am fighting to recover.

[ajmahari]

@TheBaconEggAndCheese Awareness is half the battle. I had the same goal about not being like my BPD parents. It is amazing how much that strong of an intention and goal can lead you to where and who you want to be. Best to you.

[nicazzo]

whats the name of the song at the begining?

[ajmahari]

@nicazzo Sorry I can't find the exact title right now but the song is by Anthony Burbidge - a Canadian singer/songwriter - and you can find his website at anthonyburbidge com

[MsPingu112]

You sort of remind me of my grandmother... do you also have Aspergers? I dont know whether she does, but it runs in our family.

[slobomotion]

I used to think it was terribly cruel, even cowardly, to break off TOTALLY AND PERMANENTLY from toxic relationships, especially family. I did physically remove myself at 18, never went back, but tried to be civil and supportive. I diagnosed my mother with BPD and have sent word to her. My father, she beat, and he died awhile back. He had something wrong with him, too. I'm in another country now, that's how bad it was. Uprated and shared. Accent hard to understand.