What a terrible idea. My first wife died. We loved each other very much and had a very good relationship. If she hadn't died we would still have had those attributes in our relationship. There are plenty of people who've been divorced (or serious breakup) who are crap in relationships too.
Divorce is a big deal, I don't think it's right to advocate that people should experiance divorce to promote stronger commitment in later relationships. First of all it kind of defeats the purpose and second of all it is immoral.
I think it is not necessary to get divorce to improve the way we relate to our companion. You can not control what is in your spouse mind, it depends on many factors you can do your best but everybody evolves and continuously change our preferences. Dan you rocks!!
davidesposito1: I agree. Marriage is so much more than a romantic idyll: it's terrifying the way Hollywood pushes the notion of "The One"; how all rom-coms seem to end with "...and then they lived happily ever after."
Marriage is a serious contract. We'd all be well-advised to take a long hard pragmatic look at the logistics, before day-dreaming over meringue dresses & Balinese honeymoons. Marriage affects entire families & communities, and if it goes bad, the ripple effect can be devastating.
I think a lot of these comments don't get it. Ariely is not advising us to get divorced to someone else before we marry the spouse of our dreams. He's simply commenting that the experience of divorce can serve a useful purpose in a second marriage: on the older "sadder but wiser" principle.
@MrSilentwolf21 finally a comment I was searching for :)
to others: read this first before you become too angry to think straight
szikimiki 5 days ago
JUST FAVORITED THIS.. :)
VideoGameCoupons 1 month ago
What a terrible idea. My first wife died. We loved each other very much and had a very good relationship. If she hadn't died we would still have had those attributes in our relationship. There are plenty of people who've been divorced (or serious breakup) who are crap in relationships too.
irene1ization 3 months ago
Divorce is a big deal, I don't think it's right to advocate that people should experiance divorce to promote stronger commitment in later relationships. First of all it kind of defeats the purpose and second of all it is immoral.
MrWelsluth 7 months ago
I think it is not necessary to get divorce to improve the way we relate to our companion. You can not control what is in your spouse mind, it depends on many factors you can do your best but everybody evolves and continuously change our preferences. Dan you rocks!!
quitoguru 9 months ago
davidesposito1: I agree. Marriage is so much more than a romantic idyll: it's terrifying the way Hollywood pushes the notion of "The One"; how all rom-coms seem to end with "...and then they lived happily ever after."
Marriage is a serious contract. We'd all be well-advised to take a long hard pragmatic look at the logistics, before day-dreaming over meringue dresses & Balinese honeymoons. Marriage affects entire families & communities, and if it goes bad, the ripple effect can be devastating.
MrSilentwolf21 11 months ago
I think a lot of these comments don't get it. Ariely is not advising us to get divorced to someone else before we marry the spouse of our dreams. He's simply commenting that the experience of divorce can serve a useful purpose in a second marriage: on the older "sadder but wiser" principle.
MrSilentwolf21 11 months ago 2
I think this is an experiment. Ariely will then gather our responses and will show his next big thing in Ted Talks.
TheKuroky 1 year ago
@ORCA4312 o yeah get dem milfs.
chinchoweed 1 year ago
On the OTHER hand - if someone has been divorced before - it might well be a sign that they are seriously flawed in some way.
I think it's wiser to go for a widow.
ORCA4312 1 year ago