Dealing With A Narcissist: Emotional Freedom in Action

Author of EMOTIONAL FREEDOM,Dr. Orloff discusses Chapter 5 (Emotional Vampires) of her book--how to protect yourself from narcissists--people who are self-obsessed, lack empathy, and can suck your energy dry. Warning: don't fall in love with one. Learn more at http://www.drjudithorloff.com

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[jadujen]

I've learned (after 30+ years of observation) that, even when you love an intensely narcissistic family member, the best thing for yourself can be to remove yourself from their circle~ get far, FAAAR away. =D

[Lululila67]

I need to buy this book.

[ldexterldesign]

@mankeopal Look into 'Mindfulness'. I'm going to give it a try. Good luck! #JonKabatZinn

[jag216]

@dutytocareforothers Google 'parentification' and you may find the roots of your sense of duty have been tainted. Your willingness to sacrifice has been groomed by a needy parental figure. You do not have to stop helping others, but you must learn to do it on your own terms and re-evaluate the programming of your conscience if you lived in a relationship where you were constantly forced to take responsibility for the emotional stability of another person.

[jag216]

@iirmo Whenever you deal with someone who has terrible personal boundary awareness you get 'emotionally cornered' and this drains energy like nobody's business. If you are not able to recoup that energy through unconditional love then you might take advantage of others in order to heal and rebuild. As a matter of damage control, develop a discipline of acting and not reacting. Preemptive strikes and prejudices are cheap and addictive defenses. They isolate the actor and perpetuate the burnout.

[hardrockmatt]

Thank you for the video

[RLviddy]

@jag216 Hoo boy. Yeah, well put. I've been wondering why I'm so reluctant to get back out into the world after hiding away for so long. I know I'm exhausted and that I attract less than positive circumstances. I wind up drained. I guess I just can't face another draining situation.

[ctweebee]

@dutytocareforothers . . . and isolation is a bathed testament. I agree. The narcissist has more emotional ups and down than a person with heathy narcissim. But the narcissistically vulnerable need help too--to extricate themselves from co-dependency. Thanks for the response.

[whyyesyes]

Oh my...I think I might be narcissistic.

[Josephjr4444]

HMMM...Narcissists understand that the most people are incompetent, easily fooled by propaganda, slander, slogans.? NO.most people are honest,trusting,empathic & loving.N's play on & exploit our greatest strengths.Dont be fooled.N's live a delusionary,guarded, predatory existence.they exploit they dont participate.they dont evolve they consume and move on like a virus.The "logic" of N's is twisted,flawed,selfish & hostile.I feel sorry for narcissists, who like vampires should showed the light.

[Josephjr4444]

@dutytocareforothers - the narcissist a scapegoat?... Hmm. good comment. thoughtful. yes, i believe in corruption and there are many motivations and agendas out there. My first thought is that narcissist arent necessarily bright,scheming, very introspective or nor team players.N's are predatory, "drug" addicts,wounded, unbound by moral or empathic restraint.I doubt a scapegoat though.The N is a solo solitary animal, primitive and unchanging. malicious & dangerous to the caring. hard to believe