Letter From An Adoptee - Part 1

For people who have been adopted and are having trouble moving past it. I know people will say that you were chosen by someone else, but I think it's important to address the loss experienced when you were given up for adoption too. And sometimes, adoptees get stuck at the part about being left behind.

To all adoptees who are stuck, I understand how you feel because I am adopted too and understand the overwhelming emotions that some people feel. There are adoptees who aren't affected the same way and that's fair, everyone deals differently, so if you are adopted and haven't struggled with it, good for you. I know that in dealing with the pain of being adopted, I was able to better connect with my adoptive family. When you deal with the hurt and pain of being given away, you can then better accept the love being given to you by your adoptive family. I understand that is not always the case and every story is different. And your stories are welcome here.

Also, please watch the second video as I made it a few years later and I feel like I had made more peace with the whole situation at that point. My hopes is that you will heal too.

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Greg Laswell - "High & Low"

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[arizonaadams]

These are all the same questions an emotions I struggle with everyday. Thanks you so much for this video it's comforting to know I'm not the only one with feeling like these.

[whaitekahukura]

Don't judge this person, you know not how adoption and abandonment loss affects a person, we all deal with it differently.

[whaitekahukura]

our adoptive family always threw it in our faces how grateful we should be, yet she beat us with leather belts, made my sister eat her own vomit and many more very abusive treatment. The system fails children like my sister and I every day. We are lucky to have made it out alive, though often up until recently (the last few years) I didn't think I was so lucky to be alive. Many adoptees would rather have been aborted never knowing the suffering we have gone through...

[whaitekahukura]

To all the heartless people on here who have absolutely no clue what an adoptee goes through, do some research before putting the video creator down.

As an adoptee myself and having children who were taken forcefully, and adopted out I know all too well the "hell" some go through. I was put in foster care at a very young age, my real father abused us in all ways he possibly could. Foster families nearly drowned my sister, beat us etc.

[dinochickforever]

We never "move past" being adopted but we learn to live with it.

[nanapatlee]

If you had been my child, I would tell you that the process of losing you to adoption was the most traumatic event in my life, and I have worried and grieved for you ever since. You will always be a part of me. I'm sorry for your pain and feeling of abandonment! I never gave you away; I lost you due to coercion and being abandoned myself. I wanted to bring you up as mine; I wasn't allowed.