How to deal with Separation Anxiety part 2 of 2

Part 2 of 2. In this video I talk about Separation Anxiety. This includes a typical (everyday) situation, defining the different emotions, (extreme) ways to express these emotions and how to release and not bottle up your (angry) feelings in a healthy way. I talk about how I deal with Separation Anxiety by giving you my own practical solutions.

This is the first of my nine or eleven videos about all different kinds of self-defeating/self-destructive/negative life patterns.

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[sLicker88]

You are such a wonderful person. Thank you soo much for these caring,detailed,and helpful videos..they really show what a beautiful person YOU are inside.

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@sLicker88 Thank you so much!! Sorry for the late response :(

Have a wonderful christmas.

[PrincessaSophie]

I am just beginning treatment and your videos have been very helpful to me. You've done such a great job, and I am thankful. =) Take care!

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@PrincessaSophie Your welcome Sophie. And thank you for your comment. I hope your treatment will work out for you. Take care :)

[liveafulllife09]

Just came across your posts yesterday. Not only do I find your videos to be informative, but they show how wonderful you are. You should be so proud of how far you have come. You are definetely destined for wonderful things Bas. I look forward to watching more videos tomorrow. Thanks! xx

[robinbirdslife]

Hi. I just stumbled upon your channel. I saw the first part of this video and now I'm watching this one. Thank you for being so open and honest...not only are you a great role model for people who don't naturally know how to react to something, but you are a WONDERFUL role model for men to see that it's OK to be open about emotions. THANK YOU!

[chocolatepoundcake]

Bas, this is another great video of yours that I only watched just now (+part1). It's really helpful to me. However, I do wonder what actually happened to your friend that day. Would you say that is besides the point? I do think it matters what the situation is as to why people are late or pull no-shows. If you don't want to share it's fine, but I'd like to know where people draw the line / what is considered 'healthy boundaries' (I'm still waiting for therapy to figure such things out).

[tostrivetoseek]

@MeAndMyBlackTable Thank you for your response, I was half expecting u not to reply. I've subscribed to your channel so I'll be able to see when the new video and any other new videos you do become available. I think that its great what you're doing to try help others cope.

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@MeAndMyBlackTable I think it has a lot to do with self-image/self-esteem most of all. But this topic is very complex. I hope you'll be ok. take care of yourself ok. talk to again in the new year :)

[MeAndMyBlackTable]

@tostrivetoseek Well Grey, it's not easy to write it all in just a comment.. i'm going to make a role-playing video about this topic in the beginning of the new year. But basically it's about not giving someone else control and full power over..YOU. What you think, do, say, want etc.. it all depends on his reaction...And he wasn't even asking for it probably. (1/2)

[tostrivetoseek]

and also when he does eventually get in touch I'm so upset by everything that I end up passing a comment that just sparks an argument or ill-feelings between us. The tension makes me so distressed. I'll argue it out and then just sit and cry for hours and then go to him beggin for forgiveness. By trying so hard to keep him close, I'm just pushin him further away. He's said several times that no matter what he does, it's never good enough. It's not fair on him but i struggle to control myself.

[tostrivetoseek]

thank you for these videos. My seperation anxiety is really affecting my relationship with someone very close to me and I hate it.

How do u find the inner strength to not constantly check ur phone/email when ur waiting for someone to get back to you? I can stand to not look for an hour or so but that intense need to look builds up and builds up and builds up until I give in and then i get upset about not only not hearing anything back, but also because i cant control that need to look.