Amazing Living Without Arms

She does things better than me, amazingly. This is a true example of you take what you get and don't nag about it. Here is something unbeleivable but logically happening and proving what a great heart can achieve.
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. My mom, had her stroke 1994 and later 1996 had her valve replacement (had a near death situation during the operation) and since then her condition is no more as convenient as before :( . During that time she was only 42 and she have to walk as though she was 80 and her left hand is unable to function.

Imagine during the beginning, she cannot accept this condition which falls on her, she is so negative and immediately lost her will power to live on. Everyday her life is about sadness missery and more sadness. Sometime she wonder about the world is being unfair to her. (During her young, she never harm people, always sacrifice herself for her children and she likes letting the birds go free). She is not a clever person but she is a good person.

So it is not easy for me to tell or explain to her about this cruelty on her. My task is not easy, I squeeze my brain so hard to find answer/s for her so that she will be able to have will to live on and accept the unfairness which fell upon her. Seeing her lossing her will power to live, really scares me during that time. ( I am a happy go lucky guy since young and accept everything bad or good comes upon me as fair and happy ) but this time seeing my mom in missery have effected me very hard myself. I have no happiness when seeing my love one is unhappy. Everyday I will find new ideas trying to
give her a good reason why she should accept what had happened. Trying very hard to let her see the positive side of what had happened so that hoping she will be able to accept it and move on happily with her life.

When I failed :( I will have to keep my sadness hidden to myself, I don't want her to feel my sadness because she allready very sad herself. When I failed :( I talked to God, told Him why my mom have to face this suffering, she is my angel, she done no harm to others, even I requested Him to give my mom's suffering to me. He is God and people said God is ultimately allmighty the one who can do everything. So if God not going to help me and my mom, be it, I am going to find the way myself as I usually do and anyway I seldom pray to God even since young so maybe God doesn't favour me because I seldom pray to Him but my mom always pray, everyday infact. When thinking of it sometime, I feel angry and call Him yeah !! You are God allright but not God Allmighty maybe God of Unfairness. :( Sometime when I go crazy, I can challenge the God. (** don't do this, it is not a right action **)

And through this experience, I found this few steps have the most effective result on her.

- show her this type of motivational movies, make sure to show her a lot and different types of people and it will open her eyes a little bit day by day. (just keep quiet and don't tell her anything, let her open up her eyes (realise) by self.)
- talk to her everyday, even if I am outstation, then I will ring her just simply to say hi and let her know I am ok.
- ask her to believe that living is not about suffering and I cannot explain them in word of mouth now, tell her that she will understand this later and when time come she will definately know.
- bring her to movies, cinema, outings, gentings, do something, to make a little laughter out from her. :)
- let her work, light house chores maybe and do not stop her from doing it. This will make her feel she is still wanted and needed and this can pour strength in her happiness. :)
- when she smiles, told her that I am living my life the best now from her smile, and reminded her how sad she was last time when she was afraid and confused and let her know that during that time I was living in hell. Now she really know how and why to live on happily. She is now a happy person. :)

Today myself am a different man from all this. After learning the real teaching of teacher Sakyamuni Buddha I can feel and really know what is 'calmness' and now I just need to learn to put it in practice. I think it won't be hard. :)

Hope this sharing will help you. :)

:) :) :) Sabbe Satta Sukhi Hontu :) :) :)

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[AspergirlSithstress]

what a loving son you are! I'm glad you shared this with us like you shared it with your mother. My uncle shared it with me and I will pass it on! :)

[fishman25]

@AspergirlSithstress _/\_.

[Sir0ishi]

those legs are as good as hand! shes really amazing to live on with such spirit!

[kaysweetuan09]

Wow, wow and wow some more! What an amazing woman ! she is just awesome.

[fsxmantra]

so don't make the mistake of messing around with her, a single kung-fu kick with her leg could be fatal.

[mac2010AD]

How does she clean her ass wen she shits!!!

[ilovepuppies312]

AMAZINGGGGGGGGGGGGG

[charger812]

Wow that is so amazing what she can do

[blopajmbar62]

This is amazing . It taught me to get up and do something with my life I can accomplish much if I take courage .

[talking39]

@TaraZatara A guy couldnt last this long without hands,he wouldve found a way 2 commit suicide.

[DrChefPayatas]

thats trully amazing,fascinating,incredible and most of all INSPIRING!

dcp ;-D

[CyclonicTuna023]

WOW! she must have practiced!!