Re: Who Are They!! Biracial, Black or White?

My son is biracial

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• biracial
• interraical
• mixed
• race

[Lex1999to2011]

Some people just don't understand though. What some people want her to do is to raise him as both that is what she is trying to do. But she is not white she probaly desn't know how white people raise there children. What you realy need to do is just raise your child how you raise kids with love and teach him righ from wrong. That's all.

[blkfem4whtmen]

@Lex1999to2011 You're correct. My son is now 5 yrs old he does struggle but he is just plays and is a great and well mannered little boy. What I find different....is he just got back from spending 8 weeks with his father and everyone around him was white. I don't know what we were talking about but he told his step brother who is mixed also but darker than him...that he was white. I think it is because he was around his father side for the past few weeks.

[blkfem4whtmen]

We had the conversation again about being mixed so he is back to being brown this week. We now live in RURUAL KY so I can't imagine how or what he will think but I"m just teaching him to be a good person. He has a step brother 2 years older who is mixed and he has a half brother who is a year that looks just him so they will all grow up being good men so that is all i can do.....and I'm doing a great job.

[lina8208]

How does your sons father feel about his son? Is he unable to visit him? Might he be a bad influence?

Your son might have issues with white people later on in life if his father won't help raising him or at least visit him. He might need to spend time with some other good white people. You will probably need to explain to him why his father can't be there for him so that he won't blame himself or end up disliking all white people or maybe the fact that he is partly white.

[blkfem4whtmen]

His father has come a long was than the first couple of months. He didn't see him until he was 6 month and there after he has tried to see him like twice a year. I live in NM and his father in DE. Our son knows that he is black and white and he knows who his father is. I live in a very diverse area so my son does play will all kids so he is getting exposure. I would never let him grow up hating white people. I have already taught him better than that. Thank you for your comment

[drumly02]

kids who identified with multiple racial groups reported significantly less psychological stress than those who identified with a single group, whether a "low-status" group like African-Americans or a "high-status" group like whites. The multiracial identifiers were less alienated from peers than monoracial identifiers, Many multiracial kids who choose to associate with a single race are troubled by their attempts to "pass." The fact that you are asking such a question shows that you care!!

[blkfem4whtmen]

Low status/high status groups? I understand what you're saying but I like to think I'm in high status group myself and will provide for my son to be successful. I have spoken with biracial people and most of them refer to where they grew up as the one factor to what they identify with. Mixed people from Kansas identify with the white side and mixed people in Memphis are probably identifying with black people. I just want him to know both which he will. Thanks again

[cydwaze8]

You asked about how to raise a bi-racial child. My response would be not to call him that. I wouldn't try to make it easy on people, and people need to stop thinking in terms of fractions. I mean, if I'm half black does that mean someone who thinks they aren't is more like my dad, or my brothers than I am? Your son will ultimately have to think for himself despite what others say, and I wish you both well.

[ladibug10845]

I dont get it what kind of questions are you expecting and whe you say "how do you raise a multi biracial child" just like you would raise any other kind of child dah. You talk about this as if biracial people need to be raised diffrently then any other race.

[Lex1999to2011]

@sportsmarvel I geuss that's right because, my great papa was white black and Native American

[Lex1999to2011]

@drumly02 You make no sense. She does accept him as a biracial child. It's not her fault his father isn't in his life and yes I do think she can turn to any race for help with her child if they are a parent and they understand. That's all she needs. Duhhhh!

[sportsmarvel]

Actually no such thing as Biracial. Africans are the most diverse race group. Take for example African Americans they have European gene in. Check out Snoop Dogg & Charles Barkely DNA test. both had European as well as native American in them. In every society people view you as u are regardless of how a person views oneself I mean people judge a person on looks & if they are attractive everyday so it does exist. If ur appearance is black or have visual traits of black people then don't get mad

[rubberboots23]

I can partially understand where ur clmkng from.. Buut hes NOT. Black.. Hes mixed why is that such a bad thing u make it sound like he's gay or something.. How can u put him in an all bla k daycare.. And be happy.. Wow

[islamsqueen]

LOL!

[trex011]

I am a 2nd generation navy brat. I always moved and have finaaly settled down in Ct. I get these comments everyday, but if you live with kids for awhile they start to identify you as that and stop. But i moved in and most people try to joke about me, or say i dont count, or am a stereotype because everything i do one little thing.. Its harsh, hopefully you live in a nice area that way.

[trex011]

Its harsh to do. Im a half black half white kid in high school and while i have friends and other things, there is a slight racism towards me. Your going to have to teach him how to ignore these things. My friends say stupid things like "oh your black, it doesnt count" or "your white so it doesnt matter". Most kids dont get this and the best thing you could do is to stop moving around. (see next reply fro details)