Strap-on Sex | Female Masculinity | GenderNote1

Serena loves to fuck guys with a strap-on, and treat them like her sex toy. Kink allows her to escape the hetero gender roles which have constrained her to being the object of desire. When she tops her partner she performs a form of gender which has been proscribed from somatically-female bodies.

Pics: Folsom Street Fair
Recorded at: Wicked Grounds
Subculture: Sonoma County, Bi-Poly-Kinky
Homebase: Petaluma

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• femalemasculinity
• straightbutch
• femaledominance
• sexuality
• kinky
• bdsm
• petaluma
• sonomacounty
• lesbiansex
• sextips
• penisinvagina
• strapon
• transgender
• femme
• sexpositive

[lautour]

I hope this is not too personal, but I want to explore why "BDSM" has to be the only way for a woman to be allowed to penetrate. Why must there be a "I dominate-you submit" narrative at all? I like the idea of "exploring boy's bodies" and actually identify very strongly with that feeling, but it's not because I am "womanizing" them through domination, which is what so much of BDSM is about. Any thoughts?

[StraightQueer]

I think that BDSM provides a supportive environment for people to explore desires which are taboo. BDSM creates a social space for Sex Positivity and Body Positivity in San Francisco. Tantra, Polyamoury and Neo-Pagan social formations also support their own flavors of Sex Positive Social Geography in Northern California.

Fabs (female at birth) exploring Mab bodies violates cultural assumptions about gender. In hegemonic America is is invisible.

[StraightQueer]

I believe that sexuality is always a giving and receiving. Hegemonic America labels giving as Mal At Birth (Mab) sexuality and receiving as Fab Sexuality.

Giving is translated as dominance or Topping in BDSM culture and Femme and Butch in lesbian Butch/Femme culture where they are explicitly decoupled from Fab/Mab.

It is also sometimes translated into an older woman younger man relationship, which also been the subject of taboo.

Most people I've talked to have a preference for one or the other.

[marthanyc]

@marthanyc :-) Gawd, i'm so horny right now.

[GunsNRosesTrans]

See FETLIFE for more on the subtleties of BDSM...as it is a vast topic with many layers.

[GunsNRosesTrans]

@wishcraft4u2 FETLIFE>...the "facebook' for Kinksters...

[JosePablo24]

@dougarr Except if the other person agrees? dont you think

[dougarr]

you can write whatever you want but still BDSM is total lack of respect

to another human being.

sorry for my bad english.

[wishcraft4u2]

It always seems to me like there are way more men who are into this thing than women. Your explanation makes it sound like its difficult for such women to find someone "compatible" or something. It seems much harder the other way round, somehow...

Especially when its not just confined to sex. It seems like this feminine position as object of desire is the last thing women will ever give up to their male partner.

tl;dr: where do I find such women? lol!

[hare122275]

Being bi, my enjoying of being pegged is a given. But I can see how a hetero guy could like it too. The reall issue is how society views masculinity and femininity and how each is valued. For as "tough" as masculinity is supposed to be, it's so easy to shatter because it has all of these bullshit guidelines.

[marthanyc]

I don't agree with you, at all. I'm not butch or even remotely interested in playing with pussy in bed....BUT, I love, love, love to explore boy's bodies. It's a fact, men are just gorgeous creatures who's every orifice need to be FULLY explored - and I'm the woman for the job. Tall, slim and with foreign accents just drive me insane. Someone's gotta do it....Why not me? I've got the skillllzzz and the inclination.