Update 10/25/11: Been a Long Time-Again!!

Another long overdue update. Really gotta stop doing videos once a year, lol.

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[malik8991]

Have you ever been out on a date?Sometimes,I get scared whenever I think about dating a

girl.With social anxiety,its going to be extremely hard for us to date people.

Most girls didn't like me in that boyfriend-girlfriend kind of way.Also,I have mixed feelings about dating people in the future.The first one is:they might not like me and look down on me because of my social anxiety or the woman,who I'm dating,will accept me regardless of whatever I'm going through,mentally.

[ConsciousCloud]

@malik8991 Sadly the only thing CLOSE to an actual date I've been on was my high school senior prom, which I was obligated to go to. Yeah, SA makes things very difficult in the dating world, especially in a culture where men are "supposed" to make the first move in asking a girl out. I have those same fears as you and I think it's really important the other person be okay with my SA if they don't have it themselves and to be understanding.

[ConsciousCloud]

@malik8991 Another fear I have is, what if they say yes and do like me? I'd be afraid of messing things up somehow or maybe they'd find me boring. We should probably work on building our confidence and self-esteem before plunging into the dating scene imo. Also, how do you know if most girls didn't see you as relationship material in the past? You'd be surprised at how some may have felt but never showed it. It's easy for us to think that no one will like us, but it's not true at all.

[malik8991]

Wow,I didn't know that you were 28.You look like you should be 21 or 22,not 28.

My social anxiety grew out of the humiliation that I suffered back in my final high school days.

What caused your anxiety to develop? By the way,my mother ordered some Seredyn for me and hopefully it will work for me.Do you think that it is worst to be black and have social anxiety?

[ConsciousCloud]

@malik8991 My anxiety probably started right around 12 when I abruptly had to move here from Maryland. Also, it didn't help being in a totally new culture where the people I encountered were not very friendly to me. It did get much better once I changed schools to where I became pretty much cured, but came back stronger than ever my 2nd year of college which is when I transferred colleges and encountered another culture shock I guess. Needless to say, I don't do well with change, lol.

[ConsciousCloud]

@malik8991 Oh man, I should've done a follow-up video to the Seredyn one I made since it stopped working for me after about 2 weeks of taking it. I didn't even get halfway through the bottle, but maybe I just have a high resistance to things. I hope it does work for you better than it did me. Yeah, I think being black and anxious can be more stressful because mental disorders are very misunderstood and even mostly unspoken of in the black community, but I think it's slowly changing.

[NotManyDTL]

it takes a long time to rewire your brain but its is scientifically proven that it is possible and especially for people with social anxiety,i keep on failing all the time but i feel that i am gradually getting stronger

[NotManyDTL]

yo i remember that in your earlier days you were not taking any meds so i hope you are still being strong and not taking anything,i see a mirror image of myself in you its just i am brown lol anyways all i wanted to tell u is i have tried a lot of different types of medication and in the end they make things worse,CBT is the best thing but the hardest so i just wanted you to know that if you can get by without meds for now do it and stick with CBT.i am just saying :)

[ConsciousCloud]

@IcyBlue487 The 3DS will be getting a revision eventually like in one or 1.5 years like Nintendo usually does with their handhelds, but it's a very cool system and there's finally some good titles coming out for it, not to mention the price is lower too, so if you want one, you should get it. You won't be disappointed imo. The PS Vita comes out in a couple months too so maybe decide and compare then if you're looking into getting a handheld. Both are pretty cool though.

[ConsciousCloud]

@IcyBlue487 Yep, I am still doing vlogs :) The therapist I see now offers a pretty low rate and doesn't accept insurance, so maybe if you wanted to see one again you could find someone that did that where you could afford it. Oh yeah, one of my biggest anxiety challenges is being in a group so I totally understand the classroom thing. Glad you're liking the new Zelda, it is awesome. Just wish there were more areas to explore since I'm very close to the end now.