TMatesFTM 29 Our Gender

(the request)
"Anyone else have their own gender issues? I'm bigender. Ya, I didn't know what it meant either. Wikipedia. Anyhoo, in the colder months, my male side comes to surface really, really badly. I've tried to stop it in the past, but I just end up making it worse. Since my partner has come out as trans and passes really well, I feel like I have to surpress my own gender issues since I'm not a "real" transperson. What's worse... when I feel male or more masculine, I (understandably) become more... um... interested in the bedroom... if you know what I mean. Ahh! This is so frustrating. The Tmates probably have no idea what I'm talking about or just don't care. How about this then: How do you Tmates deal with your own masculine side (if you have one) without making your boyfriend uncomfortable?"

So I hope this kind of helped, but if it really didn't which is definitely possible, then hopefully one of the other guys will help! Thanks for the request though! they're always welcome! xxx

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[jacnar]

This was a great topic. I'm glad you talked about this. I feel that I suppress myself if I try to "control" my masculinity. Outwardly, I appear and come off "feminine", but feelings inside are a lot different. Its a shame that we only have two words to describe the complexity of gender, "masculine" and "feminine." Its a lot more than that, all the "in betweens." And you are right, communication is key to dealing with this with your partner. We should all be able to be ourselves.

[RainbowPridePaw]

i personaly dont but I think its nice that you have kinda a masculine side to you. I have always been interested in gender identity. Im gonna look that up on google. I havent realy ever heard of that kinda thing in women so thanks for the video.

[hannahduncan85]

His to be ill again this week! it was only 8.30 in the evening though! lol xx

[noobiedudud15]

to fun tay "TRYING" to sleep! lol

[desibabii1]

interesting.

never heard that b4

very interesting good vid/