Reply: How can I stop self-consciousness?

I answer a question put to me about self-consciousness and explain what exactly it is and how controlling focus can help.

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• self-consciousness
• self-focused
• attention
• negative
• social anxiety
• social phobia
• shyness

[stayclassy386]

sometimes I try to use the self-critical/self-hating thoughts against it self. I think of how selfish it is for me to be so concerned with my self that I cannot think of anyone else. even though they are negative thoughts, it is still egocentric to be so concerned with "me." Sometimes this makes me "snap out" of my typical cycle.  still a struggle though...

thanks for the video

[socialanxietyvideo]

@stayclassy386 It can definitely be help to focus on other people all things rather than ourselves when we are socially anxious and that does help us break out of the cycle. Everyone with social anxiety is very self-critical and this partly contributes to their social anxiety.If you can, be nice to yourself and encourage yourself to focus on other things but do not be harsh on yourself. It is only natural to focus on ourselves when we think our 'perceived' flaws are going to put us in danger.

[pentelesoikoon]

Great tips U have there. I have a video request: SAD & bad attitude. I have a bad attitude and don`t know what to do about it. I would like to know what you think about this topic in general.

[socialanxietyvideo]

@pentelesoikoon Thanks, I'll have a think about your request - it's an interesting topic. I've got a few other things lined up, so I can't promise I'll squeeze in a video on it, but I'll try.

[raul77him]

I used to be very confident, i would speak infront of many people fluently and wouldn't give a shit about anything. Somehow now when I speak to a person, guy or girl, I stutter 1/3 times andd not speak right. I get very nervous now when I talk infront of many people, like today I introduced myself to my new job and i stutter and i couldn't say my name right, it was so embarrassing :( I need to get rid of this!!!!

[Jacobstayconnected1]

can you help me on personal lvl through message? I have self concious problem

[IzzyBooTube]

@raul77him im exactly like you i use to be very very confident but now i tihnk about how im saying things and i start stuttering and become more nervous and kinda light headed and i dont know why but it sucks bad.

[AwfullyOrange]

the only good thing of being overly self conscious is that you become more aware of the surroundings and your hearing suddenly become supernatural.

[pulsegang]

i was so confident at one tme....now i dunno what the hell is going lol

im like messing up my words and stuff

[jonoce633]

dude its hard. i keep getting self conscious of my thoughts, and then i start to "play" with them and i start to loose focus on the outer world. good advice though. ima try it right now after this post.

[alehax27]

I have the problem not during the act but before and after. For example I get super anxious before talking to someone but not during the conversation. I also start criticizing myself about everything I did and said after. Getting anxious before doing something sometimes prevents me from doing it at all.

[hjerneStimulanz]

sincere curiosity... catch these small moments that is comming ip for you naturaly before you go to a thougth

[accebere]

Wow, you have beautiful skin!

[Vassy84]

Being too self-conscious is simply a side-effect of your perceived threats of people scrutinizing and criticizing your every move and every expression, but is not the root of the problem.

Thus sometimes people with severe social anxiety will try a few tricks such as focusing their attention on the other people..forgetting about themselves in social situations..focus on the words others are saying etc. But as long as their inner belief of the perceived threats is still there, mite not work.