Contemporary Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy vs Parental Alienation

After years of trying to understand how my daughter's mother could be so cold to alienate my daughter from me & her extended family, I've discovered that the tactics she employed are that of a contemporary form of Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy; inducing the idea that I was abusive (mean/cruel) to my daughter whenever I saw her. Even though the authorities and courts acknowledged in my lengthy court battle to regain contact with my daughter that I had never in any way been abusive in any shape or form to either mother or child, as a result of the mother's years of emotional abuse my daughter to this day refuses to see me - still believing that I was cruel to her. My daughter however cannot tell me what it is that I've allegedly done to be a "mean" person, only claiming that I use to shout at her.

My daughter refuses to believe that she's been brainwashed, & seems very protective over her mother & robustly defends her, believing that her mother has protected her from me & that I'm the epitome of all of her problems.




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Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy: Integration of Classic and Contemporary Types
Deirdre Conway Rand*
Abstracts:

A contemporary manifestation of Munchausen syndrome by proxy (MSP) has emerged in which a parent or other adult caretaker fabricates or induces the idea that a child has been abused and then gains recognition from professionals as the protector of an abused child (Rand, 1989).

Pathology of the MSP Perpetrator
Whether the MSP is classical or contemporary in its manifestation, the adult perpetrator gratifies his or her own needs at the expense of a child or other dependent/enmeshed individual. Thus, it is not surprising that the DSM-III and the literature on Munchausen syndrome are clear on the presence of a severe underlying personality disorder. Folks and Freeman (1985) observe that histrionic, schizotypal, borderline, antisocial, and masochistic personality disorders have all been observed to coexist in cases of Munchausen syndrome.

Certainly, in order for the mother to maintain the deception as the child grows older, it serves her purpose to make the child believe that he or she is ill, disabled, or abused, as the case might be. Meadow (1985) notes the example of a 22-year-old confined to a wheelchair because he was brought up to believe he had spinal bifida and couldn't walk — medical examination showed his back and legs to be normal. This manipulation of the child's belief seems to occur in contemporary-type MSP as well, where a non-abused child is induced, sometimes with the help of professional participants, to believe that he or she was abused.

In divorce, a powerful motivation for developing the idea that a child has been abused is to gain custody and to sever the child's emotional relationship with the other parent. According to the definition of contemporary-type MSP offered here, these cases, described as Parental Alienation Syndrome by Gardner (1987), appear to be a sub-type of MSP.

The mother-child relationship in MSP is variously described as enmeshed, symbiotic, and mutually anxious and overprotective. The mother relies on the child to meet her needs, and typical of the role reversal noted in other forms of child abuse, "The children in these cases in some way help their parents deal with their own psychological and medical concerns" (Waller, 1983, p. 82). Ravenscroft and Hochheiser (1980) describe a mother who was distressed over her deteriorating marriage, and through her symbiotic bond with the child was able to express her sense of being "sick" by making the child sick. Her own depression lifted as a result.

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[kiwilimew]

omg, this video hurts me. It hurts me even more when I read the discription. God knows, if I even knew where my father was I would be so glad, as my mom would be too. This woman has definetly taken for granted your love for your daughter, and this woman is sick. I hope one day you and your daughter will be able to reunite and she never has to be back in such a disturbing and sick situation. You seem like a great person, and I only wish you many blessings man.

Take care.

[Moona1966]

That poor child! And what torture it must be for you, too... My heart goes out to you both, and hopefully in time, she'll see what her mother has done to her.

M.

[mquiroz90]

@PorkChopMissPiggy its the devils work wat they do is it

[mquiroz90]

bad moms only do that

[amb0374]

I amgoing through he same husband.This happens to women as well. My exhusband has even tried to put me in jail with a false claim of domestic violence. The courts through the case out in my home state however it was just enough with the police report to convience a jusdge in his home state to give him full custody. He was order to allow her to aome for visitation but after the charges were dropprd against me he has refused to bring her for a visit and now he won't let me talk to her

[Infiltrator2K]

@PorkChopMissPiggy You really are obnoxious, very ignorant & undoubtedly extremely selfish. Talking about men's dicks? Your general attitude just stinks of aggression, the same covert hatred & aggression that is used to mind fuck children like my daughter. You deserve to be sterilised talking like you do! A failed relationship/marriage is tragic when there's children involved. However, that child can succeed in life if the parents put their selfish ends aside & put the child's needs 1st.

[johnjacob771]

@PorkChopMissPiggy your right she might have problems because of the failed marriage, but I can't be responsible for anything after the child has been brainwashed like this. If social research right then the family courts are going about thing wrong. thank you for your time porkchop.

[PorkChopMissPiggy]

@johnjacob771 So you think your special? You think you are the exception to the rule? Unless you don't believe all the social research on what happens to the kids of divorce. Your daughter is going to have a very difficult time in her marriage because of you and her mother. This is a fact! Wake up and stop living in a fantasy land. I called you selfish because you are. You know how to pull your dick out but I wonder if you know how to raise a child until she becomes a grown woman.

[johnjacob771]

@PorkChopMissPiggy It's people with your mentality that are selfish, and very bitter and I can tell you spew that poison on your children. Hope you get well soon porkchop

[PorkChopMissPiggy]

@johnjacob771 Typical answer. Your daughter is the child of divorce. Come back in 20 years and let me know how well she does in life and in her marriage. You've stacked the odds against her. Selfish, just selfish.

[johnjacob771]

@PorkChopMissPiggy really? you sound so bitter and very narrow minded for a person with a masters, but whatever I just feel that this kind of abuse to be very damaging to our country.

[PorkChopMissPiggy]

@johnjacob771 Yes of course I am generalizing. A women who has been married for 8 years, has a master's degree, her husband has a master's degree and they both have their first child when she is 33. That child has a much much greater chance of succeeding in life then the women with 5 kids by 5 different men. That is still a generalization because it is possible for those 5 kids to become doctors but I wouldn't even bet $1 on those odds. A child of divorce has a much much higher chance of.....