Accessible Intercourse 9: Can paraplegics have sex?

We answer your disability-related sex and relationship questions. This week: 1. deaf people behind the wheel; 2. not using braille signage; 3. sex with feelings. Post your questions at http://www.whereslulu.com/contact_for... (From Where's Lulu.)

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Howto & Style

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• deaf
• legal
• law
• driving
• braille
• blind
• paraplegia
• boner
• erection

[wheelieblind]

sometimes people who are blind don't know where the sign is like she said, and the most blind people find is usually just from the elevators. I think I know where in SF you are, I've been to SF many times, I travel on the bart all the time.

[afertyus1000]

@mollykjody no i am a man in a wheelchair but i get hard on same as other men i can get in all the positions nearly and only would sleep with ab girl

[mollykjody]

They told me that, they LOVE direct eye contact, direct speech & approachable like attitudes from people. I try my best to tolerate my insecurities that I have changed my attitude towards others.

[mollykjody]

I feel this has opened up my heart to an extent I never realized I could. I am more gentle & sweet. I have even changed my ways. I was before really shy, never made eye contact or was really passive in my exchanges with others, NOW I make eye contact, smile, & am expressive with people because of their needs.

[mollykjody]

UH, I want to just cry all the time or relate but cannot. I treat them with so much kindness awareness & patience. 

[mollykjody]

They tell me they have a hard time doing so many things, & just how life is so hard, takes so long to do this or whatever so. They say cannot, play certain sports, dance, cook with their partner, [have sex in the shower with their partner] having to use things to get regular things done or go to places without making so many accommodations...

[mollykjody]

I am sorry, I guess these things have been on my mind, writing in my journal is not helping, I needed a window for expression of my confusions.

[mollykjody]

I always feel sympathy for him. I want to communicate with him, but sign very little, sign in American English syntax that is not like ASL syntax so the message gets misinterpreted. I write letters to him, but it is a hassle to have a fluid conversation along with carrying emotions, connotations well.

[mollykjody]

My ASL 1 professor is 95% deaf and constantly makes comments about LOVE, finding love, keeping love & having a lifelong companion, not being able to human have normal relationships. He states that hearing people are everywhere & to make a connection is so tough. I always feel sympathy for him.

[mollykjody]

Their disabilities work up my emotions of sympathy empathy & human need to connect, when they tell me their story, I always want to cry. They always tell me how hard it is for them to do this and do that. They inform me of how difficult it is getting a date, finding a partner, having stress from sexual frustrations, or wanting affection, but cannot, or how others look at them or stare. They want girls/ boys too.