High Functioning Autism Aspergers and Relationships

Hi this video is about adults on the Autistic spectrum and my thoughts on dealing with some of the difficulties we face forming and staying in relationships.

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• Autism
• High Functioning Autism
• Asperger Syndrome
• Temple Grandin
• Aspie
• Interpersonal Relationship
• Stress

[adultswithautism]

@misspinkpunkykat

If you are anything like me then it may be that we tell ourselves we don't want social situations when really it's because we are scared or don't understand them.

[misspinkpunkykat]

@adultswithautism I wonder if I had difficulty with social situations because I never wanted to be in them to begin with.

[adultswithautism]

@misspinkpunkykat

Nothing really I suppose if it's by choice. But sometimes it may be that people are isolated because they have such difficulty with social situations.

[misspinkpunkykat]

@adultswithautism What's so wrong with being "isolated"?

[adultswithautism]

@misspinkpunkykat

The only thing is that sometimes obsessions can leave a person a bit isolated. But I probably feel similar to you in that I haven't felt the need to have friends and didn't see any reason for being with other people unless they were interested in my current obsession if they were not I'd rather just be by myself. I'm not sure I know what relationships are for !!

[misspinkpunkykat]

@adultswithautism It's just not worth it for me to have to give up so much of myself to apease someone else. I feel sufocated when I can't focus on my obsessions. I don't really get anything in return from interacting with other people. Why should I have to suffer?

[adultswithautism]

@misspinkpunkykat

Hi sorry for not getting back to you sooner I've been unwell lately. It's good that you can be honest about the things you want and don't want out of life. It seems that even good relationships can be difficult to get through without getting into arguments. Compromise can be especially difficult for many people on the autistic spectrum and pretending to be interested in what the other person is saying can be very boring but I think its good to try. regards

[misspinkpunkykat]

IDK, I never wanted a relationship...even casual friendships bore me. If I can't talk about my obsessions, I feel like I am being suffocated. In a "give and take" relationship, you aparently have to let the other person talk about their intrests. If that's the way it is, I'll take my solitude. I'm an auromatic asexual anyway.

[adultswithautism]

Hi @TheLoveOfTheCattle You never know what is going to happen in the future. I never got into relationships because I was looking they just sort of happened at the time when I was a bit more socially active. As long as you are trying to get out and meet new people (something I and many other people with autism don't really like to do!) then you may have that chance meeting with someone that could turn into a relationship.

Regards

[TheLoveOfTheCattle]

@adultswithautism i don't think i will have that i don't think people want my love