Verbal Abuse & Emotional Fatigue

Why is it so hard to decide what I want from myself? Shouldn't I be excited and confident when I get a break from my abusive situation?

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• emotional fatigue
• verbal abuse
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• domestic abuse
• spousal abuse
• fatigue
• symptoms of abuse

[ptsaslkbali]

you recorded this in 2009; so what has happened, did you leave him?

[verbalabusejournal]

@ptsaslkbali Yes. I left January 22, 2010 after a physically violent incident. Life is now so much easier and full of love :)

[verbalabusejournal]

sweeetly, thank you :) I like your sound!

[ptsaslkbali]

@verbalabusejournal Brilliant glad to hear it. I left in 2004 and I just LOVE MY new life. All the best to you.

[soulgirl62]

Thank god for your videos x

[auntstacey123]

@FunnyBrit I agree. Been there, done that. Was involved with a verbal/emotional abuser. Tried to change him. Doesn't work folks!!! Get out while you have your sanity and spirit still intact.

[tal5ara]

I am for whatever reason in the same place. I think it may be just a result of the long-term abuse, and hearing you and your friends' words helped me greatly!

Long term trauma is not understood by many people! You are courageous and helping many, many others by just talking. I don't believe the fatigue is your fault. We all get worn out by the abuse, and the freedom, relative as it may be, just brings out this other layer. Part of the healing.

Think of it like a long illness or injury!

[FunnyBrit]

For those that are in an abusive relationship, just get out. Divorce is the only solution. Men like this don't change. According to Lundy Bancroft's book, very few men change, and if they do go into counseling, it's because their wives have left them.

[FunnyBrit]

To those in the same situation, get a copy of Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft and anything by Patricia Evans. I would suggest mentally divorce yourself from him, just tune him out. When he starts being verbally abusive, just walk away and go into another room. Get a diary and make a note of everything he does and says. Also, get in touch with yourself and do things, like hobbies, remember what you were like before you met him and get in touch with the woman you once were.

[littlekimvirginia]

Years of abuse left me emotionally fatigued. Thought it was just me being lazy, although, really, like sweetly, I am full of life, deep within. Every now and then I make a pathetic attempt to live the life I was meant to live, but then lose hope, because I am too fatigued emotionally to work at regaining my health, emotionally, physically, as well as spiritually. Make sure you don't follow suit, ok? You are doing so well. I think you will break free pretty soon. Watch out World!

[magnoliagoddess108]

Please don't buy bamboo flutes from Das fantasyflutes on youtube, he verbally and emotionally abused me for two years..I feel just like this lady..pass it on