Power And Control Circle

Signs Of Power and Control In A Relationship

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Male Privilege, Coercion and Threats, Intimidation, Emotional Abuse, Isolation. Economic Abuse, Using Children, Minimizing, Denying and Blaming.

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[bauergirl2]

Through this whole thing I never viewded Ron as abusive until now. You are right, all of you, he is an abusive person and I never thought of it the way you are describing it. Having said that though, I still do not think that he beat those children the way Crystal says he did. No mother alive worth her salt would allow her children to stay in that situation. Yes she may have been scared but I would give my life for my kids. I would die trying to get them out of that.

[Sierra1947]

Actually it was the attorney that said "bloody and beat", I never heard Crystal say that.  It's difficult to judge this situation based on short snips on TV. All we know right now is there is a 5 year old child missing and it doesn't look good at all.

[dharamsala55]

Add to that that I was adopted by an "old" couple (48 and 42) at the age of 16 months. So there was already there this vague but nevertheless very real feeling of rejection and abandonment. My adoptive parents just added to that and made it worse. They were sure extremely abusive (I felt so worthless...) but at the very same time incredibly over-protective, hence the constant double talk, like "Of course we love you, for if not we wouldn't cope with a fat pig like you!" See what I mean?

[christmas1971]

I hope that this helped even just one person. This case has really seemed to draw a line in the sand with everyone. But no one, no one, deserves to be abused. Thank you for posting this!

[summersonset]

Hey thanks! I didnot and do not take your compassion as pity by the way, nor do I want pity, just get it out and heal a bit more, each day. Your words (to me) are much appreciated and strengthening :).

[Sierra1947]

Sometimes we feel we have a handle on it and then it surfaces again. I understand the abandonment issues very, very well. My mother was a good example of it and she even managed to get the last word "don't tell your sister when I die". Really tough one to live with coming from a mother who brought me into the world. But she did!

[Sierra1947]

Feel free to add whatever you wish in the Power and Control Circle. Although it referencing "domestic abuse" but it can also go along with "child abuse" as it all is a matter of power and control. One of the signs are using the children, abusing the children to get power over the person they want to control.

I too am sorry you have had to experience so much in your life and are working through it now. It's not easy as the scars of the path creep in often and it's hard to face.

[bauergirl2]

summersonset: Yes that did include you also. I really do admire all of you for having the strength and courage that you do. You all are an inspiration to others and I am sincere when I say you are a voice for others and may give them the courage to talk about their abuse and start the healing process. And like I said you should be so proud of yourself for that. The abuse you sustained is so very scarring and many people don't realize that it is just as damaging as physical and emotional alone

[summersonset]

Im really sorry that happened to you and I wnat to thank you for making the power/control circle a separate topic really. I could easily add more ways of abuse of power to this circle, but I also realize this is for domestic abuse. Thanks for posting and take care and say 'hi' to Mischa from me, truly adorable he is :)

[summersonset]

bauergirl, Im not sure if you included me in here, but nevertheless want to say thank and show my appreciation to your words here. :)

[summersonset]

to correct: employEES, not employers.