FTM Surgery, Pregnancy & Labels

Is Bottom Surgery in my future?
Hysto?
Pregnancy?
My use of labels and identifying within the binary -- or not.

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• FTM
• Transgender
• Transsexual
• Queer
• Pansexual
• Bottom Surgery
• LGBTQ
• Pride
• Pregnant Man
• Labels
• Gender Binary
• Transition
• HRT

[hofmeiszter]

i know it is a pretty old video and i don't know how you are thinking about these things nowdays, but i wanted to respond to it. I have nothing against trans pregnancy, but as a student of medicine i am not 100% sure that after a long time of using testosterone your reproductive system is still capable of creating and/or maintaining a pregnancy. Are you informed about these possible side effect of your medication by an endocrinologist?

[laidbaqq]

@hofmeiszter I am aware of the effects, but not in relation to pregnancy. My doctor asked if I was curious and at the time, I was not even acknowledging my body parts, so I opted out of bothering with such information. From what I have read and heard, the possibility of that varies and the only way of really knowing is to consult with a doctor.

[aaryntalks]

The ignorance within the ftm community blows my mind. For a group of people constantly hearing from others that they're not "real men", to turn around and tell another trans guy the same thing, is something I just can't wrap my head around.

[laidbaqq]

@aaryntalks I know right.

[TammaMammaJamma]

I'm a natal born female with two children and a subby of nochokin.I find this story so fascinating!I think that having carried 2 children,and given all natural birth to both,and knowing all of the emotions and hormones that go along with it,I have NO IDEA how you'd manage the stress but you are very brave! I think that the potential child would have no problems being born to a trans-parent cuz that's all they'd ever be used to in fact most of these children are the most accepting of uniqueness

[laidbaqq]

@TammaMammaJamma Children just want to have fun and be loved. They aren't born with these beliefs that 'this' is wrong or 'that' is right. All of it is learned. So I agree, children are very accepting.

[h4rrys1]

Thanks for this video. I struggle with these issues of labels and how to fit yourself into other peoples mindsets. I've started to ask cisgendered individuals - what's their identity? It seems to help the dialogue a bit - after all no-one fits into boxes really. More thana that it's really nice to hear someone talk about the issues of pregnancy so openly. I go backwards and forwards so much on this. Good luck in your journey wherever it takes you.

[aaryntalks]

I always appreciate your honesty brother. I really get that feeling that people always want to police what we do based on other people's ignorance, rather than considering that they should just work to be less ignorant. Its like you said, people wouldn't demand an explanation or proof of a cis person's gender identity, or tell them how they should raise their kids, but because we're trans for some reason we need to do extra explaining? Doesnt make sense. Thanks for posting this, fuck the haters.

[laidbaqq]

@ablacksquare thank you. When I realized it, it had the same effect. We share a common language to express ourselves, but I think for some, its over simplifying. And because of that, we tend to lessen our own experiences or never effectively communicate our perspectives.

[laidbaqq]

@jesscaralsen I know right. I already worry about it receiving care for other things. Its the main reason as to why I stay with my doctor although I believe there is better care out there. I just want a doc who is knowledgeable on trans care and I can feel safe with them as well as staff. Even at a LGBTQ clinic, I've experienced a few unprofessional situations based upon being trans.