Narcissists Hate Children and Envy Them

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The Narcissist says: Children, to me, are both mirrors and competitors. They reflect authentically my constant need for adulation and attention. Their grandiose fantasies of omnipotence and omniscience are crass caricatures of my internal world. The way they abuse others and mistreat them hits close to home. Their innocuous charm, their endless curiosity, their fount of energy, their sulking, nagging, boasting, bragging, lying, and manipulating are mutations of my own behaviour. I recognize my thwarted self in them. When they make their entrance, all attention is diverted. Their fantasies endear them to their listeners. Their vainglorious swagger often causes smiles. Their trite stupidities are invariably treated as pearls of wisdom. Their nagging is yielded to, their threats provoke to action, their needs accommodated urgently. I stand aside, an abandoned centre of attention, the dormant eye of an intellectual storm, all but ignored and neglected. I watch the child with envy, with rage, with wrath. I hate its effortless ability to defeat me. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)

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[samvaknin]

@drexxar100 you are right, as you would have found out had you bothered to view other videos on my channel.

[EyeLean5280]

@drexxar100 - I just had a brief friendship with someone who fits these descriptions to a T. Yes, there are extreme cases. Or maybe narcissism takes people to extremes. Whichever it is, I know that it does exist. I just saw it with my own eyes.

[MsCartman74]

People think people behave rationally. They don't. (Look at smokers, they know they're killing themselves, but they do it anyway). People think just because someone can understand and intellectualize something, that means they can use that information to change their behavior. People operate on feelings. And when push comes to shove, narcissists cannot control their behavior because they are operating from a primitive emotional state that says simply, "I WANT IT! It's MINE!! Gimme."

[MsCartman74]

So to a narcissist, life is frustration because people don't treat him/her emotionally as a child. An adult with the ability to know right from wrong, to know they aren't the center of the universe, to know the rules of social behavior, but trapped with the inability to emotionally process it because something went wrong at that stage of development. A disconnect happened, and the bridge never got built. The brain kept growing, except it processes everything emotionally on the level of a child.

[MsCartman74]

Children see love as what they are given. Because children think the world revolves around them. Narcissists see love as what they are given. Because narcissists think the world revolves around them. Most children grow up and learn empathy as a result of the realization that other people have needs, and their needs are no more or less important than other' needs. So narcissists hate and refuse to accept this reality (although as adults they logically know it they are emotionally immature).

[MsCartman74]

Yes, narcissists dislike children because they are similar to the emotional immaturity of the narcissist. They want nothing from the narcissist that benefits the narcissist and therefore are useless to the narcissist. However, the narcissist also envies them because the narcissist is stuck in that state forever, and no one will love him/her unconditionally. The envy to return to a childlike state and the resentment of being forced to grow up and realize "I" am not the center of the universe.

[blacksuite1]

@MissJeanette69 lol WTF?

[MissJeanette69]

My ex is a child hater. He calls babies ugly and makes jokes about children getting raped. He is a real sicko

[MissJeanette69]

@aaaaaaaars So true! My NPD ex boyfriend is like that. Every time I'm happy he would love to start arguments and criticize me. Every time I said something positive he would make sure to down play what I said. I was never allowed to be happy

[Anon371]

I mimic children whenever I want to emotionally manipulate somebody.

[Cindycllns]

As Ive suspected.

[Cindycllns]

And there you have it