The smiling is a thing, and joking is another thing.
Conditions of permissible joking:
Joking shouldn't involve any element of making fun of Islam, that is one of the things that nullify a persons Islam. Allah says [If you ask them (about this), they declare: We were only talking idly and joking. Say: Was it at Allah, and His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and His Messenger that you were mocking? * Make no excuse; you disbelieved after you had believed] (Al-Tawbah 9:65-66, interpretation of the meaning)
The same applies to making fun of some Sunahs, an action which is widespread, such as making fun of the beard and the hijab, or of shortening ones garment, etc.
So, The jokes should only be truthful:
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said Woe to the one who tells lies to make people laugh, woe to him. (Narrated by Abu Dawood).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, warning against this kind of behaviour which some jokers are accustomed to: A man may say something to make his companions laugh, and he will fall into Hell as far as the Pleiades because of it. Narrated by Ahmad.
Not scaring people:
Especially those who are very energetic or strong, or who are holding a weapon or a piece of iron, or who take advantage of the darkness and peoples weakness to use that as a means of scaring and alarming them. It was narrated that Abu Layla said: The companions of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said that they were travelling with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and a man among them fell asleep. Some of them got a rope and tied him up, and he got scared. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said It's not permissible for a Muslim to frighten another Muslim. Narrated by Abu Dawood.
The jokes shouldn't be excessive:
Some people joke too much and it becomes a habit for them. This is the opposite of the serious nature which is the characteristic of the believers. Joking is a break, a rest from ongoing seriousness and striving; it is a little relaxation for the soul. Umar ibn Abd Al-Azeez (may Allah have mercy on him) said Fear joking, for it is folly and generates grudges.
Imam Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said The kind of joking which is forbidden is that which is excessive and persistent, for it leads to too much laughter and hardening of the heart, it distracts from remembrance of Allah, and it often leads to hurt feelings, generates hatred and causes people to lose respect and dignity. But whoever is safe from such dangers, then that which the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to do is permissible for him.
Acknowledging peoples status:
Some people may joke with everyone indiscriminately, but scholars and the elderly have rights, so you have to be aware of the character of the person with whom you are dealing. You should not joke with ignorant people, fools or people whom you do not know.
With regard to this matter, Umar ibn Abd Al-Azeez said Fear joking, for it undermines chivalry and manliness.
Sad ibn Abi Waqqas said Set a limit to your jokes, for going to extremes makes you lose respect and incites the foolish against you.
The amount of joking should be like the amount of salt in ones food:
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said Don't laugh too much, for laughing too much deadens the heart. Saheeh Al-Jami, 7312.
Umar ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) said Whoever laughs too much or jokes too much loses respect, and whoever persists in doing something will be known for it.
So beware of joking, for it causes a person to lose face after he was thought of as respectable, and it brings him humiliation after esteem.
It shouldn't involve backbiting:
This is a foul sickness. Some people think that they can talk about others, and say that this is by way of joking, but it is included in the hadeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), (Backbiting is) your mentioning about your brother something that he dislikes. Narrated by Muslim.
Choosing appropriate times for joking:
Such as when you are taking a trip in the countryside, or attending a party in the evening, or when meeting a friend, you may relax and enjoy some gentle anecdotes, nice stories or light jokes, in order to generate friendship and instill happiness in the heart; or when family problems are taking their toll and one of the spouses is angry, some gentle joking may relieve the tension and cheer people up.
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JazakAllah dear brother!
rukiyefr 2 years ago
As-salam alykom,
Jazakom Allah khyr, and may Allah grant you all what you wish, amen.
shrshr2007 2 years ago
AsalaamuAlaykum, Alhamdulillah thanks for the Lecture brother, MASHALLAH.
May ALLAH bless you and reward you, Ameen.
May ALLAH guide us All , Ameen.
JAZAKALLAH KHAIR.
spiritlite 2 years ago
Wa-alykom as-salam, jazakom Allah khyr.
shrshr2007 2 years ago