Motherhood, Adoption, Surrender, & Loss

Life with Adoption as told by those who lived it.. the Mothers of adoption loss speak out. Spanning over a 40 year period, we see that the more adoption has appeared to change the more it has stayed the same - still separating babies from capable, loving mothers.. and causing much destruction in it's wake. An Origins-USA.org production.

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[liverpoollou6]

I can not stand looking at blogs of families highlighting adoption . I think of all the women who may have lost their children as the state has wrongfully removed them. The proff is they will not open the closed adoption cases if they children/adults fall critically ill.They are more concerned in covering up what goes on in closed court with ££ making a and lots of maladministration of evidence.

[starrlara]

As a mother who lost her only child to adoption when she was a child herself, this is how birth mothers truly feel in the majority of cases. I live with my decision every single day even 34 years later.

[ThePhilRobinson]

@iReadPennyDreadfuls try the fact that most of them were brainwashed when they were coerced into surrendering their child. thats one flaw in the system for you. as regards to why they were able to care for their child, you can't just take a child away from it's mother, that bond runs deeper than than can be measured.

[iReadPennyDreadfuls]

@arlyn515 i agree. its hard for me to be persuaded that these were capable mothers when they do not explain a. why they were able to take care of their children and b. what specific flaws in the system overlooked their capability.

[MrWomanpower]

The sad reality is that many birth parents did not want their child. Of course, some did, but not all.

[arlyn515]

No one mentioned/explained if they were willing and felt able to care for the children themselves, but were forced or tricked by their parents or social workers or adoption agencies to surrender the children instead. For example, if their decisions were not voluntary or fully informed, as is implied, who did persuade or compel them to let their children be adopted? Who did take the children away from them? Did I miss something? Can someone explain this to me?

[arlyn515]

This video shows me some of the pain birthmothers can suffer after surrendering their children, but I don't understand why exactly it is an argument for stopping the whole practice of adoption. I can understand how it could support a call to ensure that open adoptions remain open, from Jackie's story.

It's also implied, however, that the way adoption is practiced has "separated babies from capable, loving mothers," but no one in the clip explains how this was the case for them.

[hegete]

All three of my friend's kids were supposed to have been late term abortions. Thank God, on her oldest the water broke and his birthgrandmother could no longer force his birthmother to go through with it. (A birthmother he loves and meets often) The twins birthmother changed her mind the day of the scheduled abortion and went to an agency instead . She has met the twins only once...Probably because she has kept them secret from her mother,kids and friends.

[petchharrison]

@jendoane Dna is nothing to do with it its becuse of attunement when your mother looks into your eyes it conects to them and makes brain conections at 1000 a second this is why babies bond to mothers.its dificult for a baby to redo this after 4 weeks, so if you were in care from 1 month to say 4 months oops or you were born as i was permeture then things are a lot more dificult.jeff adoptee also aspie and carer...