When the Narcissist's Parents Die

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The narcissist needs his parents alive mostly in order to get back at them, to accuse and punish them for what they have done to him. This attempt at reciprocity ("settling the scores") represents to him justice and order, it introduces sense and logic into an otherwise totally chaotic mental landscape. It is a triumph of right over wrong, weak over strong, law and order over chaos and capriciousness. The demise of his parents is perceived by him to be a cosmic joke at his expense. He feels "stuck" for the rest of his life with the consequences of events and behaviour not of his own doing or fault. The villains evade responsibility by leaving the stage, ignoring the script and the director's (the narcissist's) orders. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)

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[samvaknin]

See my video about narcissists and evil.

[samvaknin]

Good to see you here, Doug!

[lillie1990am]

You're a genius.

[dzsquared1]

@roflmaodue Yes.

[MyLaura999]

This video explains why my ex-bf is a narcissist, he has to live by his parents rules and still do everything they tell him to do. He lives at home with them as he is their only child. His mother talks to him like he is 5 years old, but he is a grown man of 42! He chooses to stay there, everyone can make a choice in life. I left my abuser/violent husband, I had no job, and 3 young children, so it can be done. I had been abused everyway possible, its up to us to live the life we want.

[fancyfrenchy]

@Kathydrel This is a mental illness. We tried God and he ended up ripping off his clothes and running down the street scream "God Take Me". Not to mention the time he drove his motorcycle off a cliff and when he got up ran into a ambulance head first. Might I add that he was speaking in a strange voice religious words and bible quotes. He was feeling at the TOP of his spiritualism at the time. Religion isn't the answer for this mental illness or a demon possession. Sorry,

[fancyfrenchy]

Sooo...what would you recommend to the spouse of the NPD? Run for your life? or Take a long vacation? or slip into hiding? Cause it sounds like the spouse is going to get abused as well as the kids of the NPD like they have never seen before.

[DCFunBud]

Dear Dr Vaknin: Have you noticed how popular "narcissist" has become in the American vernacular? I doubt people understand the full implication of what they are implying other than meaning self-absorbed. Do you have any thoughts of this matter?

[Dreamcaseal2]

7 Narcissist parents didn't raise their children right, lol.

[TheGalaxyhopper]

I am really getting a good education on this topic and it is amazing, bring out my big mirror, MA.

thank you!

[Michelo17]

Hello I'm a big fan of your work. As I was viewing the video I was wondering what you think of the Brian Blackwell JR case. Does this still apply to a narcissit who killed his parents?

[roflmaodue]

The Christians below me are laughable, just like any other religious person. Open your eyes and read as much as one article on our universe. Do you still think your God made it?