THE VAULT 2011 | TRAV's thoughts on may/december relationships

NEVER BEFORE SCENE VID (2011)

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[YellowKatProductions]

This was a good video. When I was a (legal) teen, I dated someone 20 years older than me. He took advantage of the fact that I was in a bad place emotionally, and he also exploited me. My age limit now is 5-6 yrs older. Wouldn't date younger. I honestly think most young people (esp women) who date 8+ years older have very serious self-esteem issues going on, because anyone with sense knows there is a vastly unequal power dynamic in these relationships and it's very unhealthy.

[WordSmith79]

@YellowKatProductions Great comment!

[lloyd614]

Looky here! I slapped this computer screen about five times because you were saying soooooo much that is so relevant to me and other loved ones I know right now. I won't say that May/December relationships are impossible, but the chances are RARE for any long term form of success. In most cases the people are polar opposites in terms of maturity, goals, resources, stability. Because of this, it's not uncommon for these relationships to outlive a year or two at best. I require MUCH more.

[WordSmith79]

@lloyd614 Yes! You require MUCH (all caps) more! Tell it, E! LOL

[Trippleg1993]

My ex was 17 years older than me and I don't care what anybody says..it does matter depending on how far the age range is...I knew alot spiritually and emotionally but like you said I didn't have certain experiences that he had so some of the things he wanted while we were together were not the things that I wanted and vice versa...a big gap will always cuase issues no matter what age you are...

[WordSmith79]

@Trippleg1993 I tend to lean more towards that line of thinking, as well

[JoyNicole1974]

As a woman, I understand why most younger chicks dig the older guy. He's the guy who we assume is done with kiddy games, and has his stuff in order whether education wise or financial. On the flip side of that...I often question the mentality of an older man, who lusts for 19 yr old chicks, because at 19, she has NOTHING to offer/bring to the relationship other than sex; and if that's all he wants, then that doesn't say alot about him and/or his character. You should always want an equal.

[lloyd614]

@WordSmith79 Ha ha haa!!!! BAM!

[ladym34]

I have been dating men older than me since I started dating, I have never dated no one younger than me & will never. There was only one time where I had an issue, the man i was dating at the time had a daughter that was the same age as me.

[crazyman0686]

@WordSmith79 I've had some older men who wined me and dined me and I paid for their dinner as well. I have dated an older man and it did work however, we broke up due to the fact I wasn't willing to compromise my character.

[Jakayla92]

@WordSmith79 no prob at all..i agree some work some dont mines was one of the dont

[ItsXp3erynce]

Thanks for sharing this Travis! You are so awesome. Happy Holidays! Hugs and Kisses!

[sarkazzII]

@WordSmith79 its on mrssarkazz