Seeking Pro and Anti Adoption Video Responses

We received a negative response to our YouTube Adoption Profile. We are looking for video responses, pro and con on adoption. Have you been adopted? Are you a birthmother? Have you adopted? Are you adopting?

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• adoption
• adopt
• anti-adoption
• birthmothers
• loss
• and
• grief
• adoptive
• parent
• parenthood
• parenting

[zipperwrist]

No, not every adoption case is shit. And no, infertile couples are not the devil.

I think that the reason people responded negatively to your video is because adoptees who HAVE had a bad experience have been forced into silence. I for one am sick of being told that I should shut up and be grateful that I wasn't aborted or thrown in a dumpster. Neither was an option for my first mother. Adoptees in bad situations just want to be heard so that other children aren't subjected to the same.

[cuddlebuttons]

i hate to tell you this, but every single kid i know who was adopted had serious, serious mental problems, even then ones adopted by the most affluent members of our community. adoption suits the PARENTS not the CHILD. i would say one out of the four adopted kids who were close friends of mine were "ok" with it. most felt neglected, thrown away, unwanted, and history-less. they felt much different than their "blood" relatives who surrounded them. i'm just telling it like it is.

[529dsk]

i'm sure you mean well baseballgeek, but to me you come across kind of patriarchal, kind of controlling. sad, but true, there is name calling and venom on both sides. i'm old enough now to be what adopters call a BOB. it's an anacronym for bitter old birthmom. and there is the word 'birth' mom. it's derogatory. there is definately a stigma attached to being a 'birth'mom no matter how pretty and pc the the adoption ads are. there is a very dark side to this multi billion $ industry.

[raffynjenny]

Contin... I never said all adoptions were the stealing of babies, I said coercion and manipulation is just the same as stealing a baby, to offer a mother support and let her know the medically proven damage separation causes is NOT forcing a mother to keep her baby, The information I know is backed up by the medical field and is truth, it is not I who is misguided however your statement and twisting of what I had written is misguided, no offense intended, God Bless

[raffynjenny]

@Exsecrabilis thanks for your reply , and no i'm not misguided and am well aware there are varying situations, INFANT adoption is a bit different and to state the methods and tactics that are used limiting choices and options for a mother is coercion and also is being misinformed, I never said all adoptions were the stealing of babies, I said coercion and manipulation is just the same as stealing a baby, to offer a mother support and let her know the medically proven damage separation causes is.

[Exsecrabilis]

@raffynjenny:

You seem to be misguided into believing that adoption is the same as stealing if the mother refuses to recgonize the child. I don't see this as manipulative, or coercive. Forcing mothers that don't want their children to keep them is manipulative, coercive, not the other way around!

[raffynjenny]

@katchat100 you need to read Nancy Verrier Primal Wound, that's great you attached to your adoptive parents, however there is nothing wrong with establishing a relationship with your mother, I hope your adopters were supportive and not insecure causing the upset in the household, and it is not being disloyal maintaining a relationship with your mother and let no one tell yo that ever, a lot of insecure adoptive parents do that it is your right to know your roots and mother, please don't be scard

[raffynjenny]

@vanillapie You are a liar and the majority of natural mothers were victims how dare you dismiss that, i suggest you learn history in this matter and find out what really goes on before throwing around lies and blanket statements

[raffynjenny]

@baseballgeek this is a good start , learning the TRUTH is the route to take, you may be very surprised by what you learn, however if you truly wanted to help the mother and her child then you support them help them etc that is the best way to go, pease give the baby back to his/her rightful mother that is the right thing to do

[raffynjenny]

@baseballgeek that's is why there should be no separation there should be support and help not separation to fulfill a desire, that's sort of selfish to be honest , it's like saying eh I know the pain is immense for both but as love as I feel good and my wife feels good and as longs as we have that title legal parents then all is ok, that is wrong it's not about you or your wife it's about the baby and his/her mother give the baby back if you wish to do the right thing

[raffynjenny]

@Exsecrabilisoh how sad you think what you do, do you not know coercing a mother into adoption is the same as stealing no mother should be meeting prospective ap's while pregnant that tactic is extremely manipulative as is coercive, making promises to the mother then reneging after getting what was wanted(the baby)is the same as stealing. WOW the things supporters of this practice actually believe just WOW

[raffynjenny]

@baseballgeek so you think