#6 Narcissists go from Loving to Devaluing You

Narcissists have intense but superficial relationships. Relationships with narcissists start out ok, because you are LURED in, but as time goes on, you begin to feel uneasy. They will smother you with admiration when they want you for their narcissistic supply, but will devalue, smear you, and punish you when they are finished with you and/or have found your replacement. They may even dangle themselves and their new love in your face afterward, insinuating that "aren't you glad we found out now that it wasn't going to work out between us? My new friend is soooo much more compatible than you and I were!" TACTLESS, PAINFUL, CRUEL!

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[annewilken]

As g-Auntie Drama I get, in a lovely way. Wants to help clean (you bet, hope he wont avoid like me helpless. Do them solo. He wants to help. Joy DrAmA Empathy, compassion, kind, silly, clown. My point, I think if kids get the care we should share. I can't believe it wont get better. This was big 4 me.  Drama is OK. Not destructive, violent..Buried in leaves, sliding down steps. Ripped Screen, strays. Flirting, thats all. Abuse cycles Wdrama. Holds the cycle 2. Danger, adrenaline, cliffs e

[DelusionDispeller]

@annewilken huh?????????????

[annewilken]

I had some years with sociopath. over a yr, two? I didn't know. Studied me (wow we think, feel, love the same), another yr of insidious dehumanizing. His patience cunning, wow. By the time it was physical it was OK, I fought back briefly (few months) he'd laugh. Death, close lots. I became addicted to that drama, had an excuse to drink & screw responsible. I own my part. Almost three yes b4 abuses. The last I'm lucky. Drama still like it. Laughing, teaching, playing. Politics, LOL.

[DelusionDispeller]

@annewilken your comments are very difficult to understand.

[cunnidvd]

why do you have relationships with narcissists

[DelusionDispeller]

@cunnidvd I don't anymore.

[DelusionDispeller]

@VchaosTheoryV can you please tell me what you said in English

[blueguise23]

They HATE kindness. They believe that it is "weakness". They loathe you for it. It they are abused by a "stronger" narcissist they like it. My husband devalues me all the time. The nicer I am to him, the crueler he is...He views me as "pathetic".

[jigglyboo26]

Luckily for me I realised what he was after four months of me thinking I was literally going insane and I researched it. I confronted him with what he was and he laughed in my face and told me that's what I was, not him. Then he never called me again, just like that. I tried to warn his friends and all they did was run back and tell him because of course no one believed me. You can't even get back at the people because they don't care. Most frustrating experience of my life...

[jigglyboo26]

This video explains exactly what I have gone through in the most confusing 4 months of my life with a psychopathic narcissist.

[jigglyboo26]

@DelusionDispeller lol yes they are haha

[purplehaze20011982]

I was with a narcissist for 3 years, she describes him to a T. Everything I did to please him was never good enough, I believe that many people with this disorder have an underlying mood disorder, Bipolar II for example. Because a narcissist has unpredictable mood swings.

[GrumpSkull]

Don't buy into their shit. If they are nice, it is bait. If they are horrible, ignore and don't react. They expect a reaction to everything for their plan. I know one that verbally has a dialog like a commentory of their plan. It tells me all. Many are pretty stupid once you are on to them. Complete absense is a killer. Their plan no longer exists in my life as long as you tell them nothing they have no tools and devices.

[Jenitza82]

I NOTICED THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG AFTER 7 MONTHS OF BEING MARRIED NOW ITS BEEN 4 YRS AND NOW IM SEEING THE REAL PERSON IM SHOCKED I CANT BELIEVE SOME1 CANT HAVE FEELINGS :(

[TheAtheistAmazing]

I am a narcissist and I have to say you are spot on about us.

[cunnidvd]

@cunnidvd glad to hear it. you deserve better. we all do.