Are you Resentful When you Lose Weight

A problem I have faced is an anger and resentment towards people who give me attention after I have lost weight. It angers me so much because I just feel that a person should not be judged on their weight. How do you guys handle this what do you think, I really would appreciate comments, and your opinions on this matter since it has been an issue that I find very difficult to deal with. Thanks.

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[TheStarvingSoprano]

I've experienced this exactly and it pisses me off. Even more hurtful has been my family giving me more attention. People who are overweight are often seen as dirty and grosse. I don't get it. I then get more attention and respect from people for being slim. And I feel valued more. I think this cycle of their reaction, triggering our reaction, I think feeds into weight gain..

[sushicatny]

yes and the anger would lead to gaining weight back and this is why i'm trying to figure out now how i'm going to deal with this so it doesnt happen again.

[xoLUVxoMYxoFIMOxo]

I was just talking to my Mom the other day about this. I think that Society looks at a heavy set person as being weak or disgusting & I think it's mainly because they just assume that we have no willpower or no self control. I remember one time my family and I went out to a buffet & my dad (the verbally abusive asshole that he is!) whispered to himself "nasty fat bitch" when he saw a heavier set lady filling her plate with food. Judging a book because it has no pretty pictures is just ignorant!!

[bluewren2]

So you think because you shut your friend up once that's it? I doubt You can change anyone's way of thinking about you and your weight by lecturing them. Ever.27 pounds is good ulness you needed to lose 127lbs,

[bluewren2]

You will also have to develop character and personality and even virtues and use every bit of intelligence and talent you have into making a success of it all .You havn't got time for all this stupid feeling resentful because you cannot let it all hang out and be as fat as you like and everyone will say it is all ok.and how much they like you.and how great you look They will say it If they are female and your own young age & they will be secretly very happy you are fat, again.

[bluewren2]

Know this out there it is every girl for herself and each one of them is competing for male attention, she will cut you out in a second if she wants the same man as you do. It's a veritable jungle out there albiet disguised with polite manners and smiling friendshipsEvery female eye is summing you up and calculating every advantage and disadvantege you have..

[bluewren2]

That is such a load of nonsense the only people who will love you just as you are are hopefully your parents and your family,if you are very lucky. Do not expect that when you go out into society .

[Misshaircare2009]

Hey, that just part of the program. People are frickle these days....I wouldn't sweat it if i was you.

[bluewren2]

hollywoodartchick

All I can say to you is 'I rest my case".

[bluewren2]

You do waffle on sweetie.Now you will attract a whole variety of males e.g. who will want to get to know you for a whole variety of reasons not the least to have an attractive girl on their arm to show of to their friends. It goes on from there you will also attract the egocentric go getter who will not settle for anything but the best.He only cares about number one.Put on weight he will drop you like a hot spud.

Hope you are smart enough to discern who 's who. Or maybe join an Ashram!

[bluewren2]

You are so right it shouldn't ....but it does.Why ?Hear what the males have to say about overweight girls and maybe you will see the writing on the wall and females take their cue from what males want. So a female who is seriously over weight is defintely out of the game as far as males are concerned. It is all about ego.You will never change that.Don't believe me ? Then have a look at the Women the Alfa males escort to the footy seasons awards night.

[bluewren2]

sushicatny ,I am anxious to get this message across to you otherwise you will never get past this block and you will gain weight again in denial and defiance of what it is you are really facing.

Suddenly being percieved as very attractive will not change your life for the better. Only you can do the inner work for that and you have only just begun.Change your focus from yourself.