Report Card Time

This week was finally report card time for my son and daughter and anyone who's been through grade school can remember the nail-biting uncertainty everyone feels opening up those tiny manila envelopes. Parents want to know that their children are getting the best education possible and that our kids are giving their best efforts in that regard.....and our kids are going through their own anxieties. I remember that report card time in my family meant stress for me no matter how well I did. My mom wanted all "A's" from me and anything less than that was met with a silence that I knew meant "you can do better". That pressure to perform at the top of my abilities was why, when I hit puberty, the first way I rebelled was through my grades. I just did not want to be a smart kid. Smart kids got beat up and were never popular. At least that's the way I saw it then.

Being a parent now, I thought I knew how to set a more loving and affirming set of expectations for my own children. I would not be the pressuring parent. I would let my kids know that my love for them did not hinge on their performance or their grades. It all seemed so clear and so simple....and then I became a parent and all my preconceived notions were wiped away in the realities of day to day parenting. I have also been challenged me to rethink how I set goals for my kids....so much for clear and simple

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[Artjommm]

*very wide smile* You’ll never bore us into the grave, guys. You’re way too authentic, smart and funny for that. It’s great to know your kids are doing so well at school. You could see how excited Selena and Daniel both were when presenting their results. When I was a kid it was a torture and a highlight for me as well. But they’re doing more than well! I salute you both for all the parental assistance.

P.S.: I’ll think of the topics I want you to talk about.

[colmonhs]

I teared up....

[kirafan68]

Congrats to Daniel and Selina. If you ever visit northern Germany, those two can get a free horse ride for their efforts!