Arranged Marriages - Part 1

An extensive look at Arranged Marriages in India and an Indian-American woman who went against her heritage to marry an American.

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• 4/5/07

[8sakuraleaf9]

@nyxophile fortunally for them it is in wisconsin and minnesota :D

[allanlovespizza]

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[nyxophile]

Is eating cereal in front of TV and watching loony tunes culture !!?

[steveniruthaya]

@Sonicku they are not judging. It is just discussion. Anyway all or world expect china, everyone arrange their kids follow a religion. evan anthist arrage their kids to broght up in to certain religion. I personly think religion should not be arranged. what religion give confussion, but arrange marriage still marriage and we got same deal sexaully.

Sex is issue when it come to marriage. Marriage/sex produce a child a life. arrange religion and arrange marriage which one best? which is worst?

[Sonicku]

@Sonicku i mean people you have to Really, REALLY imaging yourself in this position.. how would u feel having your parents divorce? bein "shared" by mom and dad? your mom bein married multiple time and your dad having a different woman in his house every Saturday?... and also imaging yourself as a parent "IS YOUR ROMANTIC HAPPINESS REALLY MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR KIDS?"

[ysomnay]

@Sonicku I think its worth considering that family/societal pressures that are pervasive in Indian culture discourage women or men in arranged marriages from seeking a divorce when they find themselves in the position that they are unhappy. Low divorce rate don't necessarily reflect successful marriages.

[verrrr1]

@priyochatterjee1 And i find it hard to believe that i have to be in an unhappy marriage just because i care too much what society thinks. I'm not going to continue this with you because it's ridiculous, i was not speaking about happiness or whether i think love marriage is better vs arrange marriage. i was simply talking people carrying STD's into a new arrange marriage because the parents don't know about ur sex life. So this whole conversation about arrange marriage vs love marriage is over.

[priyochatterjee1]

@verrrr1 marrying someone.i think we are debating two issues here do you evaluate your partner(with the help of third parties).. marry them.. and fall in love or do you fall in love.. evaluate your partner(which becomes difficult because of the emotions involved).. and then marry. the second issue is should marriage be viewed as a contract whose violation can have penalties(social/legal) or should it be treated informally with no consequences if one decides to pull out for some silly reason.

[priyochatterjee1]

@verrrr1 as for the society part you must remember that the concept of marriage started in times when the concept of government did not exist. agreements between people would be recognized and enforced by members of society themselves and since India is still a very traditional country these ideas are still enforced by society. i agree that women are unfairly dis empowered in many rural parts of India which needs to change.but i see no problem in agreeing to certain preconditions before .. cont.

[priyochatterjee1]

@verrrr1 how do you define happiness? i find it horrible to think that my partner can just walk away after 3 or 4 years because she may not like my snoring or she likes some other guy. if you can just get up and leave when ever you want why go through marriage? why not just be in an open relationship.just like when we enter into an agreement with a person we sigh a formal contract similarly marriage should also be like a contract between 2 people with penalties for its violation...cont...