The Pain of Infertility

This week I got some difficult news.

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• Caliban
• Infertility
• Sterility
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[handsomerube]

i am grateful to have found your videos...i actually discovered them a while ago, but was reminded of this one in particular in light of what happened with me and my wife today. after over 5 years of trying to conceive, we were blessed with a positive pregnancy test for the very first time. this happened literally as we were about to begin IVF, but we were blessed with a pregnancy on our own without help. very sadly, we lost the baby today at just over 5 weeks...the pain is almost unbearable.

[Caliban018]

@handsomerube I am so sorry for this latest installment in your pain. When our first cycle seemed to have caught, we were overjoyed. They told us it was a good sign, that she could become pregnant. But I know that must seem a hollow victory. My best wishes to you and I hope that your journey ends with joy.

[sweetgingertea]

Thank you for sharing this. It made me cry. I rarely allow myself to think about the pain of this, because I've told myself so many things- maybe I wouldn't be a good parent, oh I never really wanted kids anyway. Though I'm unsure it's still painful to have the decision already made for you.

[Caliban018]

@sweetgingertea It is very difficult to find oneself outside of the cycle of family without a choice in the matter. It erodes enjoyment of all, friends, family and marriage.

[hollyspry]

Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I have been battling unexplained infertility for over 10 yrs now and so we understand the pain of it all too well. More oft than not it's the women who are so broken over fertility issues, I had thought my hubby alone in his grief as not many men vocalize their pain where this issue is concerned, so it was especially comforting to my husband & I to see that it does greatly effect other men as well, so thank you again for sharing.

[Caliban018]

@hollyspry Each human is a universe of sensation. We share pain even when it doesn't form itself into words. I am sorry we share this pain, but I thank you for writing.

[MorgTMZ]

I am very sorry for your problems, I too am sterile - though permanently. I hope you are eventually able to father a child.

[Noosa1978]

what happened what is wrong. I will pray for you. God will give you a child. Sometimes mericles happen. Pray and God will give you.

[petwalk123]

my name is patrick, and i have exactly the same problem as u, u had a varicocele right? i went and actually got the surgery for it, and it imporved dramatically, thank god for technology, all i can say is stay strong, and things get better.

[darepow]

I am so sorry for your pain. I can feel it.

[nomorefunds]

@sunkissedangeluv Yes. Our society constantly pushes birth control and thinks every woman should either not have children, or only have one or two. Women (and men) are told constantly to "wait". Wait till you finish college, then grad school, then wait till you get your career going......its ridiculous. People should be told the truth: have children when you are young, because when you are older, its very hard. Career is not the most important thing.

[ispitefire]

Thank you for sharing your video with the world.. I am infertile and we have been ttc for 15yrs with no success. I am now coming to term with the fact that I may never be a mother.. it is heartbreaking

[ispitefire]

Thank you for sharing your video with the world.. I am infertile and we have been ttc for 15yrs with no success. I am now coming to term with the fact that I may never be a mother.. it is heartbreaking

[xxluvmyfiremanxx]

I just happened to stumble upon your video and so glad I did. My husband and I just had his second analysis done and he came back azoospermic (meaning no sperm at all) he had cancer as a child and we are thinking that may be the cause he is having a VERY difficult time and refuses to move forward I'm hoping your videos will help him see that he is not alone. I wish more men would come out and talk about their infertility. Thank you and PLEASE kee us updated!!!