Dating Tips for Single Black Women: Men Must Pay for Dates

Why do so many Black women feel undeserving of having a man treat her like she is special? Why are Black women so anxious to prove they don't need a man to take care of them that they rush to go Dutch, or "help" with the check on a date? Advice columnist Deborrah Cooper explains why such moves never allow the male date the opportunity to pamper you and why setting things up to be 50/50 creates the foundation of a relationship that will continue to be full of boundaries and separateness.

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[smoovb2005]

they wanna be independent, so pay hEalf, im not taking any sistas out anymore, ill cook dinner for u or something, if we cant start off simple, its not going to work!!! PEACE

[Debsterism]

@smoovb2005 No woman with good sense would come to your house on an early date. She doesn't know you! Why should she put her safety at risk to satisfy your cheapness? Going into an environment that has no other people is risky for her safety. You thinking this is a good date is all about YOU but not for her.

[coptic777]

Strong & independent black women until it comes time to pay for shit. The hypocracy is amazing.

[rjdjones]

@Debsterism buy your own coffee - or are you a "broke ass" who expects to leech off men just because you've got tits?

[herpeslip]

I will follow tradition if women will also follow tradition. Unfortunately, women scatter like roaches when 'traditional roles' are used against them.

[NuwaniDeNubianLadyIE]

@marianasreality I feel you would do it to a nonblack high class so called type of woman? nobody says you have to spend yo life savings but come on I believe most men are very selective and operate on discretion to certain woman. Then later complain of how she is receiving it and taking advantage. come on think about it man

[NuwaniDeNubianLadyIE]

@coptic777 so weh ya want? huh? for us to do EVERYTHING then we will be called out on our so called masculinity? thats the constant accusation is our masculinity your not looking at it for what it is my bruvah. im not assuming anything about you but tell if im wrong would you say that about a nonblack women? would you go out of your way to pay for everything with no quarrel would you? Im not tryna argue but i must ask

[NuwaniDeNubianLadyIE]

@Debsterism cosign sistar I also agree it is too risky this is something they wouldnt let their daughter do so why downplay? If you want a smart woman you have to understand it is certain lengths she will not and cannot go to !

[marianasreality]

@CSL1 If I ask a girl out, I'm taking her to some place where no money would be spent. It pretty much be just to talk.

[marianasreality]

You say guys should pay for dates yet contradict yourself by saying you don't believe in roles.

[marianasreality]

This woman is completely outrageous! You can show a woman that you interested in her without spending a dime. Sounds sooo materialistic that a guy has to take a woman to some place where money has to be spent. You just met this person. Go to a park or something. Dates absent of a relationship should be free or equally paid for.

[andsanp]

So hypocritical!