WHY DO U LOOK LIKE CRAP?

LADIES THIS IS SO IMPORTANT! THOUGHTS ARE ALWAYS WELCOMED

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Entertainment

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• APPEARANCES
• ATTITUDE
• HAIR
• GOD
• SELFESTEEM
• RELATIONSHIPS
• CONFIDENCE
• LOVE
• FRIENDS

[AfreeQueen]

TLD, I agree to a point. Where I disagree is when you get to the religion and being well-dressed. In God's church(es), the policy is come as you are. Are you one to tell a homeless person that they're not welcomed at your church because their clothes are dirty and their hair is messy? Right now (well, and two days ago) I started wearing a scarf on my head , outside because I'm in the middle of removing my locs...

[AfreeQueen]

I'm sure I got some 'ew' looks just for the scarf. lol

Also, your friend may be depressed. She'll have to fix herself inside before she does anything to her outside. Dressing up depression isn't going to take whatever feelings she's having inside away. Trust me...been there..done that. Have a little patience with her and inquire about her health, mental or physical. Trust me, something isn't right...and it isn't only that she's not dressing herself or showering...those are symptoms.

[TLDTHEAUTHOR]

I know she is depressed! but my motto is fake it until you make it. sometimes if you APPEAR to be happy and put together the insides will follow. She has been depressed for a long time with no effort to come out of it. So at this point I am sick of it! She has said she knows she has not been at her best, but knowing has not sparked her into action. It is not fair to those of us who love her to always have to defend her appearance. It makes us not want to be around because u cant help but feel

[TLDTHEAUTHOR]

sorry for her, You know nobody has been dealt a hand that is 100% fair. I could tell you some things that have happened to me that would make your hair rise on your neck. But guess what? I can't change the past. I can only work on the present so my future can be better. Depresssion is a spirit, so is chaos and disorder and if you hang around a certain spirit too long it can enter into you. All I am saying is be grateful that you have another day to figure it all out and dont look like you are

[TLDTHEAUTHOR]

Already in the grave! YOU ARE ALIVE!!!! Rejoice in the day the Lord has made! Show him that you appreciate the opportunity by taking care of and adorning the temple that he has allowed you to have during this lifetime!!!! Peace and Love.

[TLDTHEAUTHOR]

I know that the policy is come as you are, and I dont have a problem with someone who is UNABLE to make an effort. But if you expect GOD to make an effort for you, you should TRY to at least be presentable. does it mean you will be rejected not at all! People take time to look good going to the club, why wouldnt you do the same to go to church and at least look decent whey you are going to be around others.

[puddingpopable]

It is a sign of selfishness---they feel like crap, so they want everybody else to feel like crap. I don't know about christianity--but in Islam we have God id beautiful and he loves beauty and he loves to see his blessings on his creation.

[Silas420Botwin]

mmmmm my beautiful brown sugar princess......come and by my nubian queen....allow this white boy to whine you dine you...your clothes would never be dirty because i would just take you shoping for new things when your clothes get dirty....be the hot fudge on my vanilla sundae.......you are soooooo beautiful....let me take oyu to the church of love

[majormoviestar2008]

I believe your friend maybe going through a depression. Speaking from personal experience I was going through a depression and I didn't give a damn about my personal appearance and yes people did judge me and refused to deal with me. There is something wrong with someone who doesn't care how they are presenting themselves and unfortunatley that is not something you can give your friend she has to come to that conclusion herself.

[AfreeQueen]

...list and ask God to bring her out of the funk she's in because like I said, been there, done that. I am going through a marital crisis right now..a lot hangs in the balance for me but 6 months ago when it first started (separation) I stopped eating, taking care of myself...dressing myself up, putting on makeup...It was horrible. Then I started to wear makeup again, fix my hair and work out... it didn't take away the pain I was feeling inside. I looked good but didn't feel good.

[AfreeQueen]

If she fakes it until she makes it trust me, she won't be doing it for herself. She'll be doing it for you and those who'd look at her and judge her on her appearance...to make you happy. She has to come to the conclusion that she's not well and want to change for herself. Just like an addict. This is a behavior that some women don't escape...as you said, depression is a spirit...but it's also something that messes with progress. Dressing up won't erase her suffering. I'll put her on my prayer

[AfreeQueen]

I was speaking of homeless people coming to church... They don't go to clubs and it sounds like your friend doesn't go to clubs either. Most likely she's shut up in a funky house all day everyday. If you feel good, you look good (well, that's my motto..anyway.)