Marriage and Women

This section of scripture is exceedingly controversial. Peter discusses the role of women in marriage and their relationship to their own husbands. This is a must see sermon for all married couples, and will help unmarried people arrange their lives in a way that will prepare them for a godly marriage.

TEXT: *1 Peter 3:1 6
PREACHER: *Pastor Mark Driscoll
DATE: March 15, 2009
h3. Introduction
Three general categories that describe many marriages:
1) Non-Christian Feminism
No distinction between the roles of husband and wife. They live parallel lives, legally married but functionally single.
2) Christian Egalitarianism
No distinction between the roles of husband and wife. They also live parallel lives, but often share some unifying, ephemeral elements (e.g. kids, hobbies, church).
3) Christian Complementarianism
Husband and wife fulfill distinct and equal roles. They live as one together under Gods authority with unified purpose.
h3. Wives are to follow their husbands leadership
Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Jesus loves the Church (Eph. 5:25); Jesus died for the Church. Jesus example guards against chauvinism and other abuses of the principle of submission.
Ways a husband can handle disagreements with his wife: Pray and discuss with your wife. Be patient. Wait for her to come around.
Appeal to a higher authority (pastor/counselor).
If the matter is pressing and/or a decision cannot be reached, the husband must decide. His wife should submit to the decision.
h3. Wives are to preach wordless sermons
Those who have unbelieving husbands should not nag or be preachy, but rather love, serve, and respect their husbands, praying that God would use these actions to soften the husbands heart.
h3. Wives are to cultivate true beauty
There is nothing wrong with outward beauty, but it is fleeting and deceptive (Prov. 31:30). Holiness is true beauty. Godly wives have a quiet and gentle spirit; they are not silent, but prudent (knowing when and where to speak).
h3. Wives should seek to know exemplary women
Peter gives Sarah as an example, and the Bible is clear that she is flawed. She is exemplary for her honesty and repentance, not because she is perfect; she ultimately did submit to God and to her husband.
h3. Wives should fight fear
Fear (what if it doesnt work out? what if Im unhappy? what if my husband makes a bad decision?) makes life miserable and should be fought against by faith.
h3. Submission Does Not Mean:
A husband is in ultimate authority.
A wife does not have independent thoughts.
A wife does not seek to influence her husband.
A wife must obey her husbands command to sin.
A wife is less intelligent or competent than her husband.
h3. Submission Does Mean:
A husband and wife are equal with complementary roles.
Wives are to submit like Jesus did in Gethsemane (Luke 22:42).
Husbands are to lovingly lead like Jesus does the Church (Eph. 5:25).
A single woman should only marry a man she can follow.
Christian marriage shows the Trinity and the gospel.
h3. Book Recommendations:
The Feminine Appeal, by Carolyn Mahaney
Marriage to a Difficult Man, by Elisabeth D. Dodds
Mrs. C.H. Spurgeon, by Charles Ray
When People are Big and God is Small, by Edward T. Welch
Calm My Anxious Heart, by Linda Dillow

This clip is taken from the sermon "Trial: Marriage and Women ," preached by Pastor Mark Driscoll at the Mars Hill Church Ballard campus in Seattle, Washington, on March 15, 2009. It is the 9th sermon in our sermon series, "Trial: 8 Witnesses from 1 & 2 Peter."

To watch the full sermon, visit: http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/trial/marriage-and-women

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[Jambuster62]

Mark was a lot harder on the men... lol

[godslilgirl777]

I do have to ask, How many people watched the whole way through and watched the one on the husbands all the way through, who are against this. If you notice it says husbands lovingly take the lead meaning he has her best interest at heart and is not a tyrant. Thats how it should be

[hlewis719]

Complementarianism= "All animals are equal. But some animals are more equal than others."

[mraNewfoundland]

@mraNewfoundland Church has a responsiblilty to look at these issues and to try to address them in a fair and honest way. Else we run the risk of not being valid in today's world.

[mraNewfoundland]

@mraNewfoundland that affect men is really irresponsible. And this is the point men are comeing to the conclusion more often today that it is not worth getting married because of these issues, the

[RightWingAndrew]

@mraNewfoundland Agreed with both points. Your preaching to the choir. WHICH IS WHY HE IS SO HARD ON THE MEN!

[mraNewfoundland]

@mraNewfoundland recognize this and the plight of men in our society this will never get better. Simply just saying that they are leaders and therefor the hardest role without looking into issues

[mraNewfoundland]

@mraNewfoundland The role of leader is not a something that we can look at today because men are being tron down in society today. This starts at school K-12 and before. Again for the church to not

[mraNewfoundland]

@RightWingAndrew Yes all the while trying to playcate the feminists in his congragation and it is percisely there that this whole situation has come about. It is a feminist goal to destroy marriage.

[RightWingAndrew]

@spicydancingqueen In Christianity, where the Bible teaches extensively about the framework for a successful marriage, a pastor should have a very good grasp of Biblical principals including marriage, no?

Furthermore, he never preaches as a marriage counselor. Throughout his whole sermon, he stresses the importance of seeking marriage counseling for problems.

[RightWingAndrew]

@mraNewfoundland Furthermore, he's harder on the men because it's the MEN THAT HAVE THE HARDEST ROLE. They're the leaders, they're the head of the household. If anything, he's hardest of modern day masculinity being overly emotional.

[RightWingAndrew]

@mraNewfoundland

While I agree that modern day "Christianity" is soft on women, I believe Mark had the right idea in going about talking about women and marriage. You don't talk to women the same way you talk to men. The whole point of this sermon was telling women to submit to their husbands, something that is incredible hard and goes against the very nature of the female mind. Remember, this sermon is about marriage not about the "terrible behavior of women in society."