How To Cry- Jorge Ochoa

project how to cry inspired by how to be alone



HOW TO CRY by Jorge Ochoa (Inspired by How to be alone)

If you are at first sad, be patient. If you have not cried lately, or when you did cry, but weren't okay with it, just wait. I will teach you that it is okay to cry.
Lets begin with the acceptable places, like your room, a funeral, the kitchen. Where you mourn the death of a loved one, and as you are thinking about how much they will be missed, how you will never see them physically ever again, you feel a tear running down your cheek. Where you are cutting onions and from one moment to the other, without trying, you begin to feel that same tear leaving a trail behind.
There is also the hospital. Where you cry tears of happiness as you see your first born child. And you hold him ,or her, and caress their hair and their soft skin for the first time. It could also be that you are sitting next to a friend who, sooner or later, will no longer be with you. You exchange stories, in amidst of the reminiscing, you both cry from all those cherished memories. Wishing that time could slow down.
And there are the streets. Where you just fell of your bike, scraped your knee, and started to bleed. You get up with tears rolling down your cheeks and you yell for your mom to come help. No one thinks any less of you; after all, we have all been there. And we all have experienced it.
Or at the movies. You sit down and watch a sad movie, or a funny movie. Both which can cause you to shed those tears like there is no tomorrow.
At the store. Where you began to cry because your parents did not want to buy you that video game that you have wanted for so long. You held on that toy so hard and did not want to let go, but knew that you had to.
Start simple. Occasions or places where you have previously avoided based on your do not cry or show emotion principle.
At your dorm. Where you parents drop you off after that long drive. They only hope that their child wins the war against the world, because anything goes after they leave. You give them one last hug, and you look at your mother, and you kiss her on the cheek, and she begins to cry. You tell her not to cry but she does anyways. At your dorm, where you want to cry, but hold it in and resist the tears.
After a bad relationship. You gave the person everything you had and in return you got nothing. But you knew the outcome of being in a relationship; that being that relationships end in two ways, you either marry the person, or it fails. You resist the urge to cry because you feel like they don't deserve your tears. If you are a guy, well, guys don't cry, right? You mask the pain and keep it together. But that is not the case.
Our society does not allow room for tears, for guys in particular. They see that as being weak. You get called names, you get made fun of, you receive every repercussion there is known to man, for crying. They think that crying means that you are sad, but that is not true. Society thinks that crying means you are emotional but crying really means that you are expressing the joy, the sadness, the grief. And crying is healing if you make it. I give myself a good cry if I need it, but then I concentrate on all good things still in my life
Tears do not make you weak, and like Morrie Schwartz said, "I thought about how often crying was needed in every day life. How we feel lonely, sometimes to the point of tears, but we don't let those tears come because we are not supposed to cry. Or how feel a surge of love for a partner but we don't say anything because we're frozen with the fear of what those words might do to the relationship. If you hold back on the emotions--if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached; you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving and crying entails."
So give yourself a good cry if you need it. And tell your friends that one-day, more sooner than later, you are going teach them that it is okay to cry. And that you will lend them a shoulder if needed. After all, crying is a indeed a beautiful thing.

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