Self Help for Narcissism / a narcissist

Help for those suffering from narcissism or NPD and an
introduction to Steve's site www.narcissism.com.au

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Education

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• relationship_advice
• narcissism_cured
• personality_disorders
• marriage
• narcissist
• narcissistic_disorder
• self-help
• NPD
• save_marriage

[bamboosa]

I only have 57 years of experience of dealing with narcissists, so...I have never, ever known a narcissist who chose to admit their nature. Even the ones that I witnessed in A.A. meetings could admit their alcoholism but they utilized the meeting itself as a source of ego enhancement. Congratulations.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@bamboosa - It took me 10 years of living hell to figure out how to break through Steve's defenses. I agree with you about AA and know that wouldn't have been good for Steve at all. In the first part of his recovery I supported him while he stayed home and helped with housework and learned to be himself with me and the kids. I also sheltered him from having to face anyone while we sorted out his debts. He is working now on breaking through his dads defenses and no it isn't easy but can be done.

[frecklydharma]

If your seeking help that's good....but I agree its interesting that you have a youtube blog. The comments I read are all saying how good your doing, etc. Therefore giving you attention, which is what NPD like. Why do a blog? Youtube is about showing off and getting attention....that's not really arguable. I imagine that those traits are still in your head, but if you are really working on changing then I wish you all the best. But those closest to you should be weary of the "new you."

[kimandSteveCooper]

@frecklydharma - Steve made this as a favor for me to help promote the Ebooks that I write. If he gets attention for encouraging men to become better husbands and parents I really don't see a problem with that (-: Attention seeking is not so much the problem with NPD as aggression and deceptiveness and that has certainly changed.

Unhealthy Narcissism is the inability to acknowledge shame and if made to face that people can change. He is great to be around and we treasure Steve now (-:

Kim

[18leaT]

I think you're both full of it. I think you're both narcissists who are getting your narcissistic supply from making these videos and having people congratulate you on your supposed recovery and asking you for advice. I think, ironically, the supply you get is derived from being seen as gurus about how to recover from narcissism. And I'll bet that if you respond to this comment, you're likely going to try to subtly suggest that it is really me who has some sort of issue I need to work on.

[kimandSteveCooper]

@18leaT you're entitled to your opinion 18leaT. All I can say is that this work requires vast amounts of humility and dedication. We have never aimed to be gurus - we are simply a good example of a couple that have turned a very poor relationship into a very good one. It's nice to have supportive messages from others but mostly it has been quite an embarrassing way to have become 'famous'....- Steve.

[SuperAnthonysantos]

I respect your opinion but sometimes women are wrong especially if they push a man around. men are naturally a little cocky a boastful it doesnt mean we need are pride ripped through our spinal column. If you are dealing with a woman who is a borderline feminist and thinks this is a womans world then this philosophy doesnt apply

[somedump]

In "kimandSteveCooper"'s username, why is "kim" spelled with a lower first letter, when Steve is not? ;-)

[christinehaigh]

@Daltonn0810 your comment on here sucks, prig!!!

[Tringo40]

value for me ,but saw themselves as real people with their own value,i knew i was healed.sorry for messing this up so badly,i'm not yey

[Tringo40]

Eather you are narcissist or you are not.When i first saw people as real,not extensions of myself,not objects,things that have some

[Tringo40]

Sorry,typing from my ipad and too many beers:). You said in one of your videos that it's not going to be a transformation that happens overnight.For me it was. Eit

[Tringo40]

Love your videos! I was narcissist for 41years but now i'm healed. Ju

[brelfan]

The problem with this disorder is that everyone who cheats on his or her spouse is a narcissist. They're always selfish, and they always believe, or like to make others believe, they're the victims. These folks are narcissists but it's hard to label all of them as people with "disorders" at the same time. Couldn't they just be assholes and rotten spouses?

[bobbirobin]

How very brave of you to tell your story. It is very difficult for all of us to evaluate ourselves honestly, yet you must have had a long journey to get where you are. You should be proud of the man you are and should be given every opportunity to make amends. Those around you should be wary at the beginning but trust CAN be regained if you NEVER lie again. Your wife and family are lucky. Keep working on your family. Make sure your children learn well from you,& not repeat your actions

[dwdk3]

Narcissism is a bloody stone, not to be placed in positive of negative.