Three Things That Kill a Relationship

Excerpts from my book The Relationship Revolution.
Relationship Coaching by Owen Williams from www.RelationshipExcellence.ca

Category:

Education

Tags:

• Conflict
• Relationships
• Marriage
• Counselling
• Counseling

[jetta69]

your three things sound like one type of merriage that ends up in divorce. All three go together.

[bwhouare]

I agree, that is certainly the road to hell.

[LIOTBs]

Saying "It's not who is right, it is what is right." "be right or be happy" is wrong thinking, because it leads to "peace at any price." which leads to abuse. What you said earlier is correct. It is loving the person and finding out what is important to them and if they also love you and find out what is important to you that is the key. What is important to you is important to me, that is getting to a higher plane.

[drd105]

@listentotheteach1 Do what you enjoy doing. If she enjoys the same things, you'll enjoy doing them together. If you do things just to make her nod, you'll end up resenting and complaining. Or you'll try to "explain" to her why she is wrong which will be a competition over whose priorities are more important (your or hers).

[Patsavanna]

"win-win" only works in some areas such as "I want a sports car and she wants a family car" The win-win in that is if you get both. But in other areas like lets say i want her to dress sexy for me once in a while and she's not comfortable with it... There is no "win-win" in this situation... or lets say i want another child and she doesn't again, there is no win-win there either... there are many, many situations where "win-win" just plainly doesn't work.

[AKARAKAkeke]

@listentotheteach1 If you watched more carefully you would notice that he briefly says what to DO. How to act.

[thefutureofbass]

i like this guy!

[listentotheteach1]

OK, so this is a negative video, what NOT to do, but I didn't hear any solutions as what to do in place of those three points. Men, if you want to win over a woman, don't act like you have a heart of steel. The key word here is "Love". Love one another - "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" - "Love your neighbor as yourself" and if you do all of those things, a good relationship will follow.

[Angelostontheon]

And just maybe, some men should instead of shutting down simply grow up - and stop complaining that women keep nagging them - it might just be possible that, at least sometimes she's got a point - acknowledge that and then move forward positively together

[zytigon]

Maybe it helps if you can apologize for any nasty comments or threats, " Sorry about those nasty comments, I only meant that I was furious about that matter, I do actually love you "

[4664justin]

@flutesusan but win win is compromise lol

[flutesusan]

Win-win works better than compromise

Seek to understand is better than being committed to being right.

Focus on the postive and build on that.

He shares a lot of similarities with Stephen Covey.