STOP dealing with Narcissism like this

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[stevedream717]

This video will work for some. It won't work for others.I would say that in friendships .To walk away or run away. Set boundaries but if that doesn't work .Run away.It is not mentally healthy to let anyone mistreat you in a negative manner especially narcissists.I know firsthand that it is not healthy .Leave them alone. You cannot make anyone change. Do not put up with disrespectful or dysfunctional behavior.

[kimandSteveCooper]

OK. You have a point. But running away is such a dreadful piece of advice. How? When? What next? The problem with running away is that you are running away, there will often be no closure. The tools, strategies and challenges we have created build a platform that enables the conflict to be resolved. We never recommend anyone to remain in an abusive situation, but running away solves very little. Steve.

[DiscoProJoe]

How to deal with a narcissist? Get out, get out, get out, get out...fast!!! They only get worse with age...until they completely self-destruct. Leave them to the death they worship!

[kimandSteveCooper]

OK. You say 'Get out, Get out"! And how would an abused person do this? How do they leave? Who will help them? Have you ever moved house? Getting out is not as easy as walking out the door. In many cases, if someone walks out the door, they kiss goodbye to everything they own. We have a reader who cannot leave because she is being abused in the home she owns. Where does she go? Should she leave the house to her abuser? ..... We do our best to understand a very complex problem. Steve

[KindaGamey]

if doing nice things makes someone think me "low status" then forget it. I don't want to lose the best parts of myself (generosity, kindness) to help someone else with their problems, nor do I want to be subconsciously influenced by that kind of thinking. the most horrible thing is being made to feel insane by someone rewriting history on the fly ~ that is a dastardly betrayal and completely skewers the heart to heart honesty that relationships are supposed to be about.

[flintp51]

That. Or possibly they are being raised by one

[MrsWeen13]

So people should accept and learn to work-around the abuser in order to keep material possessions? I think not. A better solution would be to secure proof of the abuse and bring it to the authorities to gain custody of children. And you often ask your commenters who they should run to: As if the narcissist is their only option. This is absurd, we have people who love us and compassionate mental health professionals at our disposal. We should stay with an abuser because it is fiscally easier?

[stevedream717]

Use your tools they work for you and may helps someone else but I will not accept it. It didn't work for me . and if you can leave , leave. if you want to stay, stay. and the best of Life to you.

[stevedream717]

For those who want to follow your advice they are always free to do so. Your strategies will not work for everyone. And a person with NPD cannot change they actually live the shell that they have created for themselves as a survival mechanism.And these behaviors destroy their relationships over and over again. yes do I feel sorry for them . yes

[stevedream717]

The conflict is resolved for me. Some people cannot escape family members and you must remember that what you may see as running away is actually taking care of the both of you. staying is an abusive relationship is not what I recommend at any level.

[stevedream717]

 I am not running away. I am doing what is mentally healthy.

[stevedream717]

My point is not to tear you down. Listen I did write to the person and I had closure. One final letter. As this is a complex problem that I have learned is The person cannot change.It is the saddest thing in the world. The persons exhibits unacceptable behavior over and over and over. The thing is to not accept the behavior and love them as a person .Let them go. if possible.

[whatzupholly]

I will never trust him again-I know that to do so is irrational of me. He is a perfect liar and I fall perfectly for it out of my own lack of self-esteem; but no more. I caught him in his tracks-one simple mistake opened up pandora's box and devastated me and my children. I am glad that the two of you were able to work it out-but your obviously not desirous of remaining in that state-as most narcissist are. So, a family wrecked because of choices.