sally thinks you might be faking it too

just a curious notion

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[crayonboxheart]

It's me. Sometimes it builts up and I'm not sure who the real me and the fake me is anymore. I just broke up with my boyfriend of the last four years. But I had to let it go, to find myself again. Does that make any sense. So, the same thing just happened to me. I get it.

[allixpeeke]

Post 4:

... People get offended so easily that, when something actually offensive happens, it doesn't get the response it deserves.

But I think I trailed off into a tangent.

Of course there's also the issue of people changing, which may lead one to feel he/she has been fake, at least for the intermediary (sp?) period. This sounds like what you likely went through.

Sincerely,

Alex Peak

[allixpeeke]

Post 3:

The reason people try not to be "offensive" is because other people quite easily get defensive. If you make a critical comment, the other person will say, "But I..." rather than just accepting that he/she doesn't need to give excuses. And should you find yourself stating that a band that someone else loves is "a bit overrated," be prepared to be yelled at, especially if this interaction takes place over the Internet. [To be continued.]

[allixpeeke]

Post 2:

People are at times afraid to be honest because an honest comment may sound to themselves as selfish, and they wish not to offend their friend. But friendship is selfish. Love is selfish. I'm not friends with someone for his/her benefit, I'm friends with him/her because *I* want to be. Therefore in relationships, it's better to be open and honest, rather than assuming that being so will be offensive.

[allixpeeke]

Post 1:

I used to be very fake when I was a waiter. I sort of had to be. :)

I try to be straight-forward with people, though, in life. For example, when someone asks me how I'm doing, I most often say "mediocre." After all, isn't that what the average day should be? Not every day is "good," because then to what are they good in comparison? :)

[Augustina8]

I like that you present yourself as a natural sweet person.

[audri]

its ok sally we all do it, its just something that everyone does and its not necesseraly a bad thing. Its just something that happens to everyone and its a part of what makes you who you are.

[tejayce]

ehm .. i think we have an a bit different understanding of "beeing fake" .. cause i wouldnt primarily classify your example like that. its kind of only a part in the bigger story for me.

so that makes it quite hard to answer .. ehm well actually i also didnt quite understand where you want this to go. but its definitly an interesting topic as i have encountered simular behavior like in your example multiple times .. and it has always puzzled me. care to make it a more detailed discussion topic?

[1tinsoldier]

Sally, this is a beautiful video. Profound in its content and delivery. You are wise beyond your years. Be well.

[Jiggers991]

I totally understand you. It has happened that I have felt utterly unhappy with myself for faking my whole self. I just liberated myself a little bit...I just came out. And it's not necessarily bad or good to feel fake, it is only bad that you do not find yourself in the end.