BUSTED! Our Kids Found Out We're Swingers. Now What?

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So you and your wife have a great relationship and an excellent sex life. You've recently discovered the swinger lifestyle, and you're now both card carrying swingers. Life is great and you're very happy with your lifestyle and your choices.

But then your family finds out about your swinging adventures, and they start giving you a hard time about it. More importantly, they demand that you just stop swinging because they don't think it's right.

How they found out isn't really important, unless of course you bumped into each other at the same swinger club or adult dating site. :-)

But here's the real question. Is your sex life really anyone's business but your own?

Should you start taking votes from your family on what sexual activities, and maybe even what sexual positions, are acceptable to them?

Today's question is from a swinging couple in this very predicament.

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Howto & Style

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• swingers
• swinging
• sex
• lifestyle

[DanAndJenn]

A recent comment by one of our readers seems appropriate here..."A couple who plays together - stays together!"

We're not talking about a couple cheating or going behind their partner's back. Quite the opposite...

They're sharing their fantasies - together!

A common misunderstanding about swingers is that they are trying to fill a void in their relationship. When in reality, Swingers normally have a very strong relationship and have more trust in each other than many traditional couples.

[DanAndJenn]

By definition, cheating is a deception. If your partner knows and agrees with it, it's not cheating.

[deb1919]

because sex & love are two different things.

[TSXboy26]

jealous?

[lebonpost]

i don't like the guy he is a selfish bastard, after all swinging is all about me me me

[Bird1888]

DanAndJen you all rock my wife and I are swingers and love the Lifestyle!!!!

[PlatypuSPawn]

@BlauwLove It only takes being run over by the train of divorce once to never want to bind yourself to another person. I used to believe in marriage, but I can never go back to that institution again. Ive lost SO much, financially, psychologically, physically and spiritually (yes even that), that it is not worth it.

Good luck if it works for you, but I cant endorse it, at least not by law.

[PlatypuSPawn]

You guys are more understanding and normal than most "normal" people in America (whoever they are),

Im so happy to have found people like you that are open and endorse non-traditional sleeping arrangements, Im SO tired of the hypocrites who want to be like you but cannot do anything out of religious upbringing and what would people say!!?

[BlauwLove]

It's a shame sex has NO special meaning in today's world.

[ayurveda1008]

Personally I find if you are really in love with someone that desire to go outside of that for sex is not there, you are satisfied and the idea of being with someone else doesn't arise when you have built a relationship with someone where you love and the sex is an expression of that. When it is just about being together and you care each other but more desire for sex and less that depth of love with that one person and deepening in that through sex this arises. Which is not to say it is wrong.

[bradid24]

Do you have a child? Do you want your chld to be swinger like you?

Please do not treat or consider your children is strangers.

You will get the result.

I think you should stop if they concern reasonably.

Nothing is more important than harmony of family.

[SotujXoporet]

this women looks like one I chatted to on tiny[.]cc/doherhole

[ncfwhitetigress]

Yeah I grew up in a very different type of family so that's probably why it was hard for me to understand your POV.

[TargetGuy2245]

Maybe I look at things in the worst possible way sometimes. I do come from a dysfuctional family (alcoholism) so my view might be skewed. I also was temporarily involved in "the lifestyle" and knew people who would never tell their teenagers. I definitely would not want to know if I were a child but these grown up kids who are unhappy with their swinging odler parents need to move on or get a life.